Where do the kids go?

Question

if we would get divorced what would happen to the kids. the youngest is 10 and the oldest is 17-i know they wouldn't ever want to go with dad becauset they have said so. but is it a law that they would have to go see him sometimes-or could the mother have total/complete custody of them ALWAYS? and does their ages make a difference?

Answer 1

From your question, it is clear that there is more to the entire situation. (The issue of whether to divorce is based on who gets the kids)?

This is not going to be your favorite answer, but it is important to keep in mind-when considering divorce-some of the places your kids go.

They might go-into depression. (Maybe THEY caused this to happen).

They might go-and hang around kids (you might not approve of but whom your children feel) "understand" them.

They might go-running away from issues, as they have been taught that this is how difficulties are resolved.

Please pack this in your bag, before packing theirs.

I hope this can be resolved between the both of you.

Answer 2

The 17 year old would have virtually unlimited say in how much he or she saw dad, as would the ten year old once he or she turned 12.

The decree might put joint custody with primary physical custody with you and like I said, the 17 year old could see dad as much or little as desired and the 10 year old would have a couple of years of the court order before being able to self-determine at the age of 12.

Why do you want to keep your children from their father?

Answer 3

Depends on the state. Some states have an age that the child can decide where they want to go. And unless you can prove that he is a danger or a really bad guy, he will most likely have visitation. If you can support your request, you can ask for supervised visits.  

Answer 4

Your husband would have to give up all legal rights to your kids, And that all so means no child support for you!.

Answer 5

If their father wants contact with them, then you'll have a long, hard battle in trying to prevent that.  Is that worth it , or would your energy be better spent in trying to make this life changing event go more smoothly for your children?

If it goes to court, the age will make a difference.