Where does the feeling of trust originate from in a relationship?

Question

How is it expanded upon? What levels are there? What are the basic components? Thank-you!

Answer 1

The seed & foundation of trust comes from within each of us.  It is to do with our own ability, or more precisely trust in ourselves to discern truth from untruth and illusions from reality!

We use this to first discern or even make a judgement on the world around us and people we come across.

Adding on to this are layers upon layers built out of experiences whether our intuit/discernment/judgement was made accurately or not.

Adding positive experience to the appropriate 'view point' add to level of trust & negative to negative vise versa.

All amulgamated together to build the entire package known as 'trust'.

What is most influential when it really matters are our internal 'knowing'.

Artificially build trust is not as efective as genuine jestures / actions / worlds made out of trust (even if it is trust that the person will understand us accurately) without intended outcome (i.e. pure rather than with ulterior motives).

It takes time to 'build' on trust.

The starting point may not be (in fact, after a certain age unlikely to be)  on a level ground! The starting point is the over all results of related experiences & expectations.

Trust & accept self will help others trust you more.

Say only what you mean and mean what you say & deliver all you promisses at or before the time you said you would.

Add to the positive and avoid giving negative (i.e. contrary to worthiness of trust) as much as possible.

Never 'assume' anything !  If in doubt,it is better to ask and really listen.

PS. :  It is best to not get general trust in the person mixed up with smaller issues.  e.g.  If you dont trust a person, it means you don't believe their intention towards you is good, it may be that you feel you still lack information to make a sound judgement.  

If you don't trust someone enough to lend them your expensive items e.g. a car - it could be because you do not trust their ability to drive, or you don't trust they will take good enough care of it, or you don't trust they can pay for damages should it happen etc and not because you do not trust the person.

It's best to know exactly what it is that you don't trust.  It causes less problems and heart aches if you yourself are clear about it.

Answer 2

It depends I guess on if she has ever given you reason not to trust her, if she has, then its going to be hard.  Checking up on her is never good either way. Some people are trust worthy and some just aren't but hopefully your able to find it within, because a relationship will never work without it.  That's just what I feel.

Answer 3

I think it is something you just know.  through the way the relationship is going.  through my experience depending on the guy I would trust a nice guy rather than have trust in a guy who you know you just cant trust.

Answer 4

The feeling of trust originates early on in a relationship (assuming that it starts as a friendship) I think both parties are somewhat introverted when it comes to trusting in the beginning, but the idea of trust can stem from any small detail.

For example, in the start of a relationship, if your partner is punctual, it gives you a sense of security, you can trust he'll be on time to dinners/movies/whatever else.

I think as the relationship deepens, and you start opening up to your partner you start to trust that he/she is someone whom you can confide in, and you trust they won't spread your weaknesses around amongst friends.

As the relationship progresses I believe there are different levels of trust which become apparent. Do I trust him/her with my car? With my life? Would I loan him/her money? Is he/she going to hurt me? Can I trust he/she will be faithful?

The basic component of trust is honest and communication. If there is any chance either of those are not true and real, I think naturally your ability to trust weakens.

Answer 5

What, is that your homework assignment?

Psychology 101, first day of classes, first assignment?

Trust comes from within.  Expand it yourself.