Where in the rule book of pregnancy . . . .?

Question

says that you have to be a certain age to have a baby.

i mean im not saying im all for teen pregnancy but why do every one see that just because your young, you cant give birth to your own child & take care of em? why label these young girls? why be called a w***e just cause your 16 & preg? im saying, back in the day, there were young mothers, so why is it such a big deal? why cant people be happy for these girls as much as they're happy when a twenty somthing year old breaks the news of their new addition to the family.

Answer 1

Because having a child when you're not prepared to care for it or prepared to provide for youself and your family is irresponsible.  It's safe to assume that a 15 year old mom has not finished high school, much less any kind of higher education, has no job or career, lives at home and depends on her parent(s) for everything.

I don't think teenage moms are whores because I had s*x as a teenager.  I just think they're woefully irresponsible.  Condoms are not difficult to obtain or very expensive.  I don't see how these girls are ending up pregnant unless they're very stupid or they're doing it on purpose.  

Having a baby at 15 or 16 probably seems like a lot of fun.  You get all the attention and you get to have a cute cuddly baby.  But the reality of having children is very different.  When you have kids everything ceases to be about you and starts to be about the baby.  Most 20-something married moms have trouble adjusting to this, so I can imagine it's pretty devastating for a teenage girl to realize her childhood and social life are officially over.

The point is, you should never bring a child into the world unless you're able to give that baby the very best shot you can.  A teenage mother simply lacks the stability to do that.

In the past, women were expected to marry at 15 or 16 and start making babies immediately.  They didn't really have a choice in the matter.  Families needed to be big because so many children didn't make it to adulthood and they needed a lot of kids to work the land.  Not only can modern women choose to have careers, they usually need to have them just to get by.  The economy makes life pretty hard for most single-income families.

So no, I can't be happy for a 15 year old mother.  I feel sad for her and even more sad for her baby because I know life will more than likely be hard for them.  It makes me angry because things could have been different if Mom had only been a little more responsible or a little less selfish.

Answer 2

well, Im just shy of 18 years old and I got prego and gave birth to my daughter at 16 years of age. I was also married a few months before I was pregnant so, I think the situation of a younger pregnant person is what people really look at. You have to be stable and working and on your own.

Answer 3

Because those who were 16 once, realized some of the idiot things they did - and the idiots they dated.  More so the ones they dated, and now see them at 30, and thankful they are not their childrens father.

Also money.  30 year olds typically make a lot more money than 16 year olds.  And 30 year olds are sick of paying for 16 year olds babies.

Answer 4

It's not that the girls are young and pregnant that people don't like... it's that they are most likely unmarried, which a lot of people look down on pre-marital s*x (although A LOT of people do it themselves) and really look down on pregnancy because in our society, girls that age are still in school. There's a chance that they won't ever get on the right foot in the world, therefore leading to them being on welfare, etc. Which means hardworking people pay for the baby...

This is totally not my view-- but just thought I'd shed some light on the situation for you.

Answer 5

i dont know maybe jelousy? maybe becuase people in society always think they know whats best for other people. i really have no idea. im 18 and pregnant (19 when the babys here) and people give me looks all the time. Im a high school graduate, live on my own, im with my babys father, im enrolled in college full time so i dont even pay attention to those looks. ive had older women come up to me and say...i notice you dont have a ring on your finger. ha that lady caught me on a bad day and i just responded...yea and i wish i did that way when i punch you it would hurt more. HA she walked away.

life is life and noone should judge someone else for what they chose.

Answer 6

Because statistics show that teen mothers have a higher incidence of poverty throughout their life, and their children are more likely to live in poverty. Are there exceptions to this? Sure there are, but they're that- exceptions. There is a difference between 16 and 22 years old.

"Back in the day" young mothers were married and there was little divorce, so they weren't expected to be educated and have to provide for their families on their own. Women need an education and a means for providing for themselves before they bring children into the world. There are very few teenagers who fit that bill.

Answer 7

If that 16 year old can FINANCIALLY care for her baby then I'm not so concerned. However, most teenagers do not have the means to support a child(medical insurance, a place of their own, and a stable job). It's not the "rule book of pregnancy", it's the rule book of life. If you cannot support yourself you have no right to think you can support a baby.