Where should you discuss your marital conflicts: in private or with friends or in front of your in-laws?

Question

Where should you discuss your marital conflicts: in private or with friends or in front of your in-laws?

Answer 1

We can share our conflict with their's.

Answer 2

you should never discuss your marital conflicts with friend or family. Don't bring anyone into your marriage. All you need is God. the more people in your marriage the bigger the problem gets.

Answer 3

Discussing marital problems with anyone outside the relationship will most time yield hurt feelings in the end towards the spouse. Which will in turn hurt you if all works out. Whether it's friends or parents. I have one friend I can talk to but with her I still limit what I say.

Answer 4

Privately.

Answer 5

in private on paper

so that both of you hopefully will be honest, and control your words  

Answer 6

the first person to discuss the conflict is the person party to it...ur spouse..if differences cant be sorted one shud seek professional help...ill agree with most of the views above that discussing with family will only agravate the problem...

Answer 7

Learn to discuss it with your spouse in private.  If it is resolved, then well problem solved.

If it still persists, then talking to mutual friend to both of the parties, might help.

The thought that you want to speak out, before taking any action, makes me feel happy.

Let god help you to find a way to solve your problem.

good luck too

Answer 8

Marital conflict should always be discussed in private between both spouses & should always be avoided in front of in laws, other relatives & friends etc. When this dispute/conflict is discussed in private, the maximum time for it to settle is 24hours, when in presence of in laws it may aggravate to days & even weeks, when it is discussed with other relatives then it may even go on for months but if these are discussed with friends, neigbours & other official/professional colleagues then it may lead to breaking of marital relationship completely in the form of divorce. This is both my personal as well professional experience.

Answer 9

I leave my in-laws & parents out of it because it's not fair to them and potentialy dangerous to the marriage... I VERY OCCASIONALLY ask my happily married friends for their opinions, without going into any more detail than necessary...  I make a serious effort not to do this too often, though, out of consideration for my friends and my hubby...

Answer 10

in private or with a counselor or minister

Answer 11

Honestly something like that depends on the person. I know for myself and most other people would likely discuss them in private with the spouse and then talk to friends for advice on what to do. But I doubt many discuss the marital problems in front of the in-laws unless the in-laws are really cool and supportive and could offer advice on what can be done. Though I think the more PC (politically correct) thing that most people would do, would go to a marriage counselor and talk with them about the marital conflicts.

Answer 12

in private , could also be with her daughter

forget whole thing

Answer 13

In private.  I don't think that anyone else would be interested in my dirty laundry.  If they were, I would call them nosy people.  We all have problems, but they must be resolved in an adult fashion, between the two people involved.  Any other way is just asking for confusion and trouble.

Answer 14

Don't involve parents or inlaws in your problems. This is the start of a whole new problem commonly known as Indian Culture. The Culture of interference. Live and let live, let each one sort out their stuff without the hindrance of others (unless asked).

Answer 15

Practically, I never discuss my marital conflicts to any one even the persons who are very close to me. I always discuss it with myself,  inside my brain to sort out the best way to handle the whole situation in a calm way.

Answer 16

I recommend you discuss it with your spouse.  Of course you need a friend to vent to at times but keep in mind misery loves company.  Family should be kept out as much as possible but sometimes there are circumstances that I think it is okay...for instance, my wife had an affair and until this day, no one in my family knows about it...however, my wife's mother was aware and she comforted me during the period of suffering I had.  I hope this helps.  Good Luck!