Wheres a good place to look??

Question

I have 2 boys and another boy on the way, we were thinking about adopting our 4th child...i was wondering if anyone knew a good website or adoption agency to look for caucasian, healthy children?? a lot of the places i have been looking it seems that all the children have health or mental problems (which i wouldnt beable to handle with 3 other kids) thanks for the honest answers

Answer 1

Since I see nowhere in your question that you are specifically wanting a newborn, I'd suggest your state's foster care system.  Any adopted child is going to have some issues.  At least when you adopt a foster child, you're giving a child a home...one who NEEDS a home.  I hear you about the mental problems.  Some foster children don't have metal problems.  However, that's not something you can possibly know, with ANY adopted OR biological child until they grow older.  You're taking a chance either way.  It's worth the risk.

Answer 2

Call your local social services office and ask for adoptions.  They can give you all the info you need about where to look.  Getting an infant by being chosen by the birth mother is probably what you are looking for.  Unfortunately, there is some bias toward matching infants with couples who have no birth children and are unable to conceive.  I'm not saying they shouldn't get first choice in being presented to the birth mother, I'm just telling you what I experienced.  Most adoption agencies encourage you to adopt within your own race.  Most adoption agencies have a very long waiting list for what you are looking for.  So if you think you may be interested in a couple of years or so, you should start the application process now.

The waiting list is much shorter for older children and minority children.  But, you should do what is best for you and your family.  Adopting a child is a wonderful thing.  Good luck.

Answer 3

Ahhh the elusive healthy white newborn... good luck with that.

Try calling an agency.

***edit

Ok that came off a touch snarky. I feel the need to clarify the reason why. I'm ok with wanting a child who looks like you, I wanted all of my kids to look like me too so I get that. I'm ok with wanting healthy, some conditions are a lot to take on and no sense putting more on your plate than you think you can handle, wouldn't be fair to you or the child.

The part that always gets me is the newborn bit. But that is just me. So many kids in foster care, so many people looking for a baby, so few babies to be had. All while some amazing kids sit in their room praying for a "real" family. How do I know? My best friend aged out of foster care at 14. She was pregnant and it was intentional. Why does a 14 year old girl get pregnant willingly? To have a family, one that doesn't hurt you, one that doesn't leave you, one that says I love you. I hate thinking of how many kids might try the same thing. How many kids are out there waiting for someone to say I love you?

sorry. i have to go tell someone i love her.

Answer 4

You should foster or foster adopt.  And not to be mean, but why do they have to be caucasian?  The children we've fostered before have been different races but we loved them all the same.l

Answer 5

If you have three children already, leave the infants to those who are infertile.  There are more adoptive parents than babies (especially healthy and caucasian) so either look at older children or take your blessings in your three other children.