Whether conflict is constructive or destructive depends on our response. do you agree? explain and elaborate.

Question

Whether conflict is constructive or destructive depends on our response. do you agree? explain and elaborate.

Answer 1

well fist off may i say what beautiful legs you have and that i totally disagree with you, your totally wrong! OMG!!! Sooo wrong!!! naa I'm just playing, nooo conflict totally depends on how it is initiated between two people or more, and it is completely unpredictable on how they will react and the outcome can be just as unpredictable

Answer 2

I completely agree.  Take a standard married couple in a standard married fight, money.  The wife tells the husband he is spening to much money and the husband tells the why she spends more than him.  They react to the fight in completely different ways.  The wife becomes angry and hurt and resorts to name calling (this is destructive) while the husband starts pulling out his receipts and trying to start seeing where his budget needs adjusting (constructive)  The exact same fight became constructive for the relationship and destructive at the same time based on the husband and wife's responses to the conflict.

Answer 3

I disagree.  It is up to the person who initiates an action or conversation, not the responder, to act in a constructive or destructive way.

For example, if my little sister is singing and it sounds absolutely HORRIBLE, I have two choices (besides keeping my mouth shut).  I can say, "Geezes, will you shut the h**l up?  It sounds like you're gutting cats."  OR, I can say, "You sing with a lot of energy, and that's great.  I think you could sound even better if you focused a little more on keeping on the same key.  Here, let me sit down at the piano and play the notes while you sing."

Mind you, in either situation, my sister could response constructively or destructively, so it's not entirely the responsibility of the initiator.  Ultimately, I would say that both parties must make a conscious effort to be constructive, but a constructive initiator makes it more likely that the situation will develop and resolve in a constructive manner.

Answer 4

I would agree it is necessary but also destructive. Firstly because conflict  helps sort differences out. Unless we are able to state our perspective(be assertive) we will develop resentment. It is the response we get to that perspective that can be damaging. Couples in marriages develop patterns of arguing where they don't really discuss the real issue that bothers them, for example, not feeling secure or valued. Instead the couple  begin to argue about little issues when really there is a underlying issue(not feeling secure or valued). This is when conflict can become destructive.

Answer 5

This is a very subjective question, but you have to take a jaded approach to these types of generalized queries

Conflict usually implies two opposing ideas that without resolution, will end up in "destruction." But on the other side of the coin, if an agreement is made upon by both sides, only then will "constructive" growth ensue.

Not to be confused with competition, where both sides are under agreement that it is all in "fun"

Answer 6

Contention need only be an opportunity for us to learn about others and more importantly ourselves. If one perceives it as destructive is only the choice of the opponents to choose this postition.