Which do you think is worse - being deceived, or being lied to?

Question

i guess what I am trying to say : do you think that if the person is going to hide certain things from you (say...important things) it is pretty much the same as out-right lying?

Answer 1

yes, i think honesty is the best policy.  do i think we need to divulge every little detail of our past? no, but most people know what needs to be discussed and when they are intentionally hiding something.

Answer 2

It depends whether what they're hiding is something you have a right to know.

Answer 3

Like our Great God Jehovah I hate lies in all of their forms.

I will however hold back information if the person in question is not entitled to it, get my drift?

Agape x

Answer 4

I would judge the two as being equally bad ,in that in order to deceive one must lie,or distort the truth. EDIT--and in a twist with so much deception out there we are encouraged to at times not to let our right hand know what our left hand is doing,using christen values of course with a good accurate knowledge similar applies to ones being encouraged in the Bible to be as cunning as a fox in some dealings ,ie. in volunteering , we could say unasked information.Always remembering the power of a match compared to our tongue in what trouble it could cause.

Answer 5

BASICALLY THE SAME THING IN MY BOOK...A LIE IS A LIE

Answer 6

I am answering this without reading anybody's comments first. OK....I think that being deceived is more like "tricking" someone into believing something that they may already know the truth to. Being lied to on the otherhand to me would be more like when one person doesn't know the truth at all and is seeking answers from someone and that person tells them something other than the truth.    

For example, Eve knew that Jehovah God had said that she would die if she ate from the tree of Knowledge of Good and Bad. Satan told her she would not. Eve knew the truth, but Satan deceived her, tricked her into believing that she would not die. He also told her that if she ate from that tree she would "be like God."  Now, that was an outright lie. Eve had no knowledge of "being like God." Satan was the first to put that in her mind, God didn't tell her that.

Oh, and being lied to is worse than being deceived, for me.

Answer 7

Are you talking about the difference between outright lying, or being evasive and misleading?  I don't think there's a lot of difference, actually, since the goal is the same: the person is trying to keep you from learning the truth.  Whether it comes from a direct lie or from an attempt at deflection, the person has the same intent and I don't think one is any more innocent than the other.

Answer 8

Either can damage a relationship, but your question assumes  the secrets are important, so of course that's bad. Its not always clear that certain information is definitely important, or better out in the open, so the "deception" may not necessarily have a negative intent. In that regard it may not be as damaging.

Answer 9

i think being deceived and being lied to are the same. i do believe however that people make errors in judgement or say something without thinking which should not be thought of as lying or being deceitful. my girlfriend and i are having a somewhat similar issue with something i said one way but when asked i answered differently. not sure why but i did, now she doubts me. cant blame her it was stupid. sorry too much information.

Answer 10

When I read your title before I clicked, I was wondering "whats the difference" then I read on.  I think that Lying by "Omission" is the same as lying...period...They didn't tell you something, it's the same as lying to me.

Answer 11

I see no way around decieving someone without lying to them.

look at what Satan did in the Garden of Eden, he deceived Eve by lying to her. just my thoughts.

Lying is the  total motive. its wrong.

Answer 12

I see them as equal.  I hate dishonesty in any form.  I try to be honest with everyone and sometimes to a fault, as my husband tells me.  I have told my sons if you are going to be ashamed then do not do or say it.  If you do say or do it then man up and admit it and learn from it.  I do not expect or want my sons or husband to lie to or deceive me as they expect pure honesty from me.

Answer 13

being lied to is worse..Because they  outright did not want you to know the truth and being deceived means there was a possibility of you finding out.

Answer 14

that depends , if he's not revealing everything it may be he is embarrased about  his past or maybe he feels that it will only upset u. if u want direct answers ask direct questions if he is an honest person he will tell u , but beware you might not like the answers u get, for example i don't go talking to my wife about how many girls i've had relationships with but if she asks a direct question i won't lie . i've done alot of things i'm not proud of but that was who i use to be , remember we all have skeletons in the closet sometimes its best if we leave them there