Which is better? this is more of a survey than advise.?

Question

to not want to get involved with girls but to have them following them every where, or to want to be involve yet be totally and utterly despised by them?

Answer 1

the first one.

Answer 2

Do you mean, "have them following you everywhere." I would guess to not want to get involved and have them following you, because being despised and wanting someone/something will send you over the edge.