Which is harder?

Question

to be happy with who you are or to be the kind of person that you can be happy with?

Answer 1

It is harder to be happy with who you are. All else should follow from this. You cannot be any 'kind' of person you think you could be happy with unless this person is who you are.

This does not mean that who you are should remain fixed, not driven to move forward. People usually reach certain ambitions, whilst creating others. People can be happy with themselves and their values, but to keep moving forward they must be happy to keep changing what they are. People who are fulfilled in themselves in this way will probably be happy to be with too.

Answer 2

to be happy with who you are

Answer 3

Happiness comes with self acceptance, having the serenity to accept what you can't change, the strength to change the things you can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Peace M.

Answer 4

well if u can be happy with a person because that means that person can make u  happy.

Answer 5

Well if we are striving to be a better person we can never be completely happy with self can we. Doesn't humility come in here some where ?

Answer 6

To be happy with who I am because I don't really like who I am.

Answer 7

Hey i think it is best to be happy with who you are. you should never be ashamed about who you are because every body is different and those differences are what make you special and who you are today. If you try to change yourself to be someone who you imagine you will be happy with, it will make you more unhappy because the more you change yourself the less true to yourself you will become. You may have an image of the sort of person you want to be and that's good, It will help you see who you are and how you can improve yourself but change has to be slow and meaningful, developing from a deep seated conviction of the person you want to become.

In short love yourself as you are and really know yourself. :)