Which is painful not having a baby or having a baby?

Question

Which is painful not having a baby or having a baby?

Answer 1

def not having a baby....the pain would be worth having a child

Answer 2

it depends on what you mean,

emotionally, iut probably would be painful if someone did not have a baby

phisically, it would be painful having a baby

Answer 3

Both, if you have a baby it is painful and raising is painful too, but I will tell you one thing.  It takes a strong and courageous woman to have the baby and raise it to be a special person.

Answer 4

If your talking about abortion or carrying the baby. In my experience abortion is much more painful because I feel so disturbed thinking about It still and that pain and guilt will never leave till I die, childbirth lasts for only a small time and then you forget the pain and have never felt like anything could be more worth the effort.Pregnancy and having a child is the most wonderful miraculous experience you can ever go through.Also some people have really easy births because epidurals are great!

Answer 5

physically not having a baby will never be painful

emotionally, only have a baby when you are ready and have the time to be completely dedicated, you will no longer be the center of the universe, but this time physically, it will be extremely painful :)

Answer 6

i think not having a baby is more painful because when u have a baby the pain last only for a couple of hours.. but not having a baby and wanting one is really painful i mean u can't get over it...

Answer 7

Well it depends on the person...

If you became old you may think back on how you wanted children..if you didn't have any of course.

On the other hand... if you had a child even though you didn't want to the you'd probably be pained...

Of course these would be more mentally sorts of pain...

Also if you were actually in the process of having the child the I'm pretty sure you'd be in pain.

In the end,it depends on your situation and circumstances.

Answer 8

WTF?

Do you mean stone babies or 'lithopaedia where the foetus dies in uterus but is never expelled by the body and becomes partially absorbed but the rest remains as a  calcified stone mass?  I believe they can be uncomfortable but they are often discovered in very elderly ladies who have carried them for years, decades even.

Do you mean does the physical pain of childbirth outweigh any mental anguish a woman might have over never reproducing?  

You question is a little vague.

Answer 9

Not having one.

They are the most remarkable little creatures, and they grow up in to real people! it's such a novel idea, I am always absolutely tickled when my five year old says something clever or well thought out, I think 'how did you get so smart boy?'

Answer 10

I have been on both sides of the fence on this one, I have a 6 yr old son from a previous relationship and currently ttc a child with my husband, and I can definitely say that not having a child is more painful, I dont even remember all the pain I endure giving birth to my son but I still cry about having had three miscarriages in the past four yrs so if you're in a situation where you have a choice choose life because the pain you'll feel when you loose life will go way deeper

Answer 11

whaa??

you mean, if you are pregnant and ready to deliver and the baby doesn't want to come out or if he actually does want to come out?  I think the first would be more painful.

Answer 12

mentally it would be tough not having a baby cause then you would be sad, every women wants children at one point or another, and physically having a baby hurts

Answer 13

I'd bet not having a baby... you hear all the stories about the women who don't have the baby and how awful they feel afterwards.

Answer 14

i guess not having one is mentally painful and having one is physicaly painful but rewarding

i guess not

Answer 15

I'm confused????????? could you put more details.

Answer 16

It depends...not all people want a baby or are ready for a baby...so If you say you want to do X Y and Z before having a baby...sometimes it may be too late and the pain of regret is what may aile you....Now the pain of actually giving birth is just temporary and then you have your baby and you forget that you were just kicking at a nurse and cussing your husband out! and wanting to smack your MIL....oh wait...that was me with this last baby who is now 2 and soooooo gorgeous! lol

Answer 17

Both.  You May Regret Your Decision Either Way.

Answer 18

if you mean physical pain, then having a baby

Answer 19

for me it's not having a baby.....I've had 2 miscarriages and it is devestating! I want a family sooo bad!

I am luck enought to be pregnant now and almost halfway there!! I got to see my beautiful baby on monday..and I'm over joyed!

I think the pain of childberth is not going to that bad...the end result will be soooo wirth it!