Which one of these statements is true according to you...?

Question

As I said in my previous question,I'm a very possessive and jealous person and have trust issues towards my bf..However,as I've been told many times and as an answer I've received confirms,it often turns out that the most jealous and controlling partners are at the end the ones who are most likely to cheat...on the other hand,I've also heard that jealous people push their partners in someone else's arms...I know there's not a specific rule but which one of these statements do u believe is most frequently true?!

Answer 1

If you are obsessively jealous then you might just push this person away.  As far as being a cheater, have you ever cheated on someone or have you ever been cheated on?  Either reason would give you the tendency to believe that your other half would be capable of cheating on you.

Answer 2

There is little room in a relationship for dis-trust and jealousy. If you do not trust him, why are you with him? Trust, honesty and openness are key in a healthy partnership.

Answer 3

Jealousy pushes people away.

Why are u so jealous? Do you think that youre not worthy enough for a man to love only u?

Have u seen a therapist?

Answer 4

None. No one causes someone else to cheat. The decision to cheat is made by that person no one else. If you feel like your partner is driving you to cheat then LEAVE them. The jealous person is usually so because of their own insecurities. Maybe they are not comfortable with their appearance or they have been cheated on before. It is a sign of the jealous one cheating themselves if the jealousy is developed overnight, not if that person has been that way since day one.

Answer 5

The truth is the more you push,nag and accuse he will go to someone if he hasn't already.  Women need to realize regardless if you are insecure, not all men cheat... Not including the more you worry about him the more your own health gets bad.  Worry about yourself first for a change and you will see what I'm talking about.  Your world will be flipped and who knows he may not be what you needed anyways.

Answer 6

I'm trying really hard not to call you crazy.  Really, really hard.

I hate your life.

Answer 7

I think that BOTH can be a result of this sort of behavior.

You can easily push someone away by holding them near on a short leash...Everyone needs room to breath.

Then again, guilty minds think guilty thoughts of their partners...And will accuse because they think their partner is just like them.

It is more-than-likely going to be a case of you pushing this man away - right into the arms of a secure woman that makes him feel like a MAN...

You should seek therapy beofre you do this.

Good luck.

Answer 8

a good relationship does not have room for jealousy...

more than likely you will push him into the arms of a less controlling and more confident female..... people are attracted to other people who have self respect and confidence in themselves.... look inside to find this in you.....

Good Luck!!!!

Answer 9

Of course, it all depends on the individuals involved.

But, I know that whenever anyone really tries to control me (and that rarely happens), my first impulse is to break away. So, I can imagine if I did the same, my partner would really resent it and bolt.

Real trust comes from honesty and openness between partners. Then there's no room for jealousy.

Answer 10

I think jealous people are jealous because they fear for the stability of their position,  either because the lack confidence in themselves or their mate, or because they are personally aware of the potential for deceit, maybe because the feel the it or know it to be within themselves.

Answer 11

I think you should go into therapy! A sure-fire combination to chase away people from your life are jealousy and possessiveness.

In order for a relationship to be successful (that is, happy and able to grow), trust is a key factor. Without that, you've got nothing.

Unless you change your ways, you'll never find a guy who could fulfill all your needs. No one, except major wimps, would allow himself to be in a controlling relationship.

Also, if a partner is going to cheat, there's not much you can do about it. Some of the nicest, most loving partners have been cheated on.

Good luck to you. I hope you find someone who will tolerate your personality traits.

Answer 12

Super jealous people usually do not trust themselves - that comes from a very deep level inside, and some people are not aware of it until temptation crosses their paths, when they jump at it without even thinking. Afterwords, it hits them - OMG, now I know why I am so insecure - it is because I cannot be trusted.

It is also true that it is human nature to actually DO things you are constantly being called guilty of, because after all: I am already assumed guilty, so I might as well just BE guilty.  On top of that, nobody likes being around a totally insecure person - it makes things very uncomfortable.

OH YEA - I have been here and been these people.  I have burned myself more times than I care to admit, but trust me - it IS true.