Which situation is worst?

Question

Blacks are constantly criticized for having so many illegitimate children. I am 1000% against the idea of people having unwanted children that they can't afford. Still Whites marry in higher percentages, yet over half fail and create a high percentage of single parent homes also.

In both cases the children are emotionally devastated. When Whites marry, they spend thousands on weddings and lie before God on vows that they know that they wont do, then they divorce. The men lose half of their stuff, pay alimony, most have been unfaithful during the marriage, beat and verbally abuse their wives and the children still end up messed up and in single parent homes. Most Black women eliminate alot to the negatives of having a husband or controlling man and going through the inevitable divorce process when they want children. Again the children are emotionally messed up. The number of White women having children out of wedlock has tripled over the past 30 years,so is this a trend for the future? But in the case of the child, which situation is worst? (I am not including dead-beat, welfare women in this analysis.)

Answer 1

An Einstein will develop in whatever situation... but for those of us who are more average, a family with a mother and father are important for psychological development. I don't think it's a color issue. You find single parents in black and white communities. Maybe moreso in poor communities, so inner city blacks and poor rural whites will have the same problems. It's hard to keep families together when today, there's no way for a single income to support a family. We just aren't paid enough in this country. After all, we're not Norway or Sweden, where people are actually paid well for their work.  

Answer 2

my guess would be the kids who don't know who their fathers are. having kids just for welfare money, is just wrong in every way.......

Answer 3

Human beings are mostly motivated by economic considerations. Yet the institution of marriage cannot be criticized on the sole ground that it ends up in a single parent and the offspring suffer a lot on this count. On the other hand one cannot support the view that since blacks cannot afford to bear the children or provide them sustenance therefore they should avoid producing children and more or so when they produce illegitimate they add insult to injury.No society promote illegitimacy and all look down upon the same.

Efforts should be made to promote responsibility in the adults. Laws should be framed which promote better relationship between the spouses. Family values need to be protected even if it has to be done at the expense of economic bounties. Children of broken homes remain emotionally disturbed through out their lives. The color of skin does not matter as human beings behave in much a similar manner

Answer 4

Hi

Interesting points.The whole framework for marriage unity and family have been turned upside down. I believe the 60s opened the door for promiscuity on a grand scale. Infidelity,abuse and such has been around since the beginning of time. It's seen more so because we have the internet and television.

Women choosing to have children without a father involved is usually to avoid all the abuse and negativity. If birth control and welfare were removed, it would be very interesting to see if things changed or which direction society would go. Children learn from what they see.