Which would you prefer for a wedding gift?

Question

Pick one, or suggest something unique. I DO NOT want to get them money or something off their registry, so please do not recommend that!

-Decorative Serving Bowl

-Cute Cheese board with tools inside that you flip the board open to see.

-olive oil/vinegar holder

-box of random kitchen items

-place setting set(napkins, place mats, etc)

-your suggestion(not money or registry.. I want something unique!)

Answer 1

i don't want to sound rude but the gifts you listed are really boring and they don't sound like they would get used much, people do have gift lists for a reason! sorry!

Answer 2

I cannot tell you how much of a pain "unique" gifts are.  The registry is there for a reason.  If they end up not liking your gift, then how can they return it? I think its very rude to get someone a gift off of the registry...especially if its not something that is very personal.

You have a bunch of home stuff on there which they probably registered for so it makes absolutely NO sense to get something outside of what they picked out for themselves.

If you had said a personalized scrapbook that you were making, or a quilt that you were making then OK.  But you are choosing stuff that is probably already there...it really is a dumb idea.  And FYI nothing that you said is unique.

Edit--Yeah but when you get duplicate items, its much easier to go in with your registry numbers and get a credit.  It is harder to go in with a random gift and try to get it changed.  Plus, how do you know you aren't giving them a duplicate gift...but that is also not the style they want.  I think its awesome you want a unique gift but if you're going to do that, then really make it unique.  Kitchen stuff in a box is not unique.

Answer 3

I have to agree with you on not wanting to get anything off the registry.  I personally dont even look at them because a gift should be the choice of the giver, not the receiver and I feel if I'm close enough to the couple to attend the wedding I should know what they would like.  it sounds like they like to entertain by the things you suggested.  of all of them I would probably like the place settings with nice cloth napkins, but you might also consider a martini set if they like to drink or a set of wine glasses or whatever type of drinks they like to have.  or what about a serving tray or serving dishes to use on thanksgiving or Christmas when they have family over.

Answer 4

well if i have to pick something off your list i would pick

-Decorative Serving Bowl

you can't have too many of them.

but in reality i would rather have money. i didn't care about getting anything 'unique' for my wedding. i was much more happy getting money.

Answer 5

I know that you won't like my answer but, somepeople have a theme to their kitchen. So at least look at the registry and see if they do have a color theme going on. And then choose one of those that has the theme that she wants.

Answer 6

I wouldn't use any of the items you suggested -- but that's because we never entertain at home.

I like to give (and receive) good knives.  Lots of people don't have a really good chef's knife (I have a Henckels that I like, but there are some really nice Japanese ones out there, too).  A paring knife and a bread knife are also good.  Also consider a good knife sharpener.  Besides being something they will use a lot, knives last a long time, so they will have them for years and years to come.

I also like getting Christmas decorations (assuming the wedding is around Christmas time, and the couple celebrates Christmas).  I've also bought Judaica for my Jewish friends (mezzuzot, menorahs) and that seemed to go over well.

Answer 7

The most appreciated gift that I have given was a laundry hamper filled with miscellaneous household things like dishtowels, soaps, cleansers, etc.  I even threw in a few candles and a bottle of wine.

Answer 8

money or registry. People register for things they want and need for a reason.

Answer 9

im sorry i have to agree with most evryone nothing on that list really strikes me as any thing i would ....um enjoy having ...i mean dont get me wrong i would be greatful and appreciate it but it wouldnt...evoke any thing in me i would rather get something that excites me or something sentimental to make me smile i LOVE  the house cleaning idea!!!!!!!!!!!how well do you know the couple? if their not getting it including in thier wedding what about telling them in a nice card that you will take the wedding pics and put them to a slideshow ....or its kind of corny but we have this sign that has our last name and it says "doe drive" evryone who comes over comments on it if your close to them what about taking pics from througout their relationship and make a scrap book ohhhh even better if your talented or know someone who is my husband made these great tables then he put family pictures all over the top and clear coated them and then something to protect from mostuire  but im sure you could just buy a cheap end table even from a tag sale and do the top of it up and im willing to bet even if they have an end table if you make something special like that their going to use it  well thats all i can think of at the moment and those only really work if your close to the people and here comes the bad part cover your ears{{ if your not close to them i would go with money or gift certifacite to a resturant or maybe a hot air ballon ride or a wine tasting event an hour at an indoor hot tub ect stuff like that depending on what the couple are into}} good luck i hope you find something both you and the couple will be happy with :)

i will ask my husband what he used for sealant and stuff on the tables and get back to you...

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Answer 10

I think you should give the wedding couple something memorable from the heart. Custom handmade figurine is a unique gift for everyone!

I would highly recommend you visit http://aweddinggiftidea.com

Their professional artists will make a wonderful figurine of them. I sent them my favorite pictures of my sister and they made incredible "mini-me". That was awesome! My sister was very, very touched and pleased when I gave it to her as wedding gift.

Answer 11

If you know their colors, I'd go for the place setting set.

Answer 12

This is such a silly question because you're taking a HUGE gamble here. People set up registries for a reason. This is stuff they're going to use together for many years to come - these gift ideas of yours are not a sweater she can return later. Most likely they registered for place settings and such already, and if you get them one that doesn't match, you're going to be embarrassed, and put them in an awkward situation.

If you want to get them something unique, get them some funky candlesticks from a gallery or antique store. People could always use candlesticks for different occasions. The cheese board idea is okay, too.

But this really bothers me, and in fact, it's kind of rude to just ignore the registry. It's not easy making one (I just did it with my fiance). They probably worked hard to pick out stuff they would use  together for years (it's a big decision!) and you're ignoring it just because you want to be unique.

I would get them one thing from their registry, and then one small unique thing.

True: I just read your response. I agree completely. This person wants to give a unique gift, and yet, all the ideas are regular household things I actually registered for for my own wedding.

chinno98 - People are giving you their honest opinions here, hun. You might want to face the fact that while you have good intentions, what you're doing is considered slightly rude in the wedding world.

Answer 13

First, let me share with you my favorite gift that I received for my May wedding: http://www.personalizationmall.com/Perso...

The personalized wedding frame is so unique, while inexpensive, it was the best gift I received.  The person that gave us the gift also gave us a gift card to the store we registered.

Answer 14

Place settings, as long as they match the current house style (or the couples style if they are yet to redecorate that particular room!)

Answer 15

I got married a year ago in September and my FAVORITE gift was someone got us a one time house cleaning service so that we could have a fresh start after all the wedding stuff had calmed down.  It was the best and only $100 I think.  If that is out of your price range you might see if you could go in on it with a mutual friend that you have with the couple.  If that is not an option I would get a laundry basket and fill it with the ramdom kitchen items.  We got one of those and there is some pretty interesting stuff to be had.  We loved that too.

Answer 16

I like the one time house cleaning gift!!!

Answer 17

Serving bowl.

I am a huge fan of anything crystal and love unique serving pieces.

Answer 18

Get their invitation framed, get something personalized with their family name, get them a bible if they are religious.

I wish that someone had gotten us something that wasn't on the registry- we got cash from almost everyone, which was nice, but we don't really have any keepsakes from the wedding.

Answer 19

cheese board i suppose... although if they wanted any of the things you listed, don't you think it would be on the registry?

Answer 20

The place setting set.  It is something I always admire when other people have them on their table but would never think to buy for myself.  

And I would love a beautiful table cloth to go with it.  Something so nice that I would only use it on special occasions.  

I miss seeing them on tables like when I was a child growing up.  They made the holidays special for me.

The bowl set would be my next choice if they had lids.  I can't have enough of them.

And the box of random kitchen items would come in so handy

Hope that helps

Answer 21

If pressed for an answer, I would choose napkins/place mats, but TRUTHFULLY I would much rather folks just stick to the registry. Most "unique" items end up gathering dust.

Answer 22

I would enjoy place setting set, a decorate serving bowl (not too big), a spice holder, a bread knife, a chef's knife.  How about a decorative hook (Lowes) and a plastic bag holder?

If you are thinking of appliances, an 4.5 gallon roaster (great for baking in summer)!.  Or a toaster oven for crispy fries.

Decorative ceramic baking dishes that can go from oven to table.  I have both an italian and polish ceramic baking dishes that work great for casseroles and even lasagna.  The polish ones are absolutely beautiful to look at.

Finally, how about a gift basket that includes some smaller gift items (coffee grinder, maybe some beans or spices, a drink mix in a pretty jar?  Here's a jar to a make-a-mix site.

http://members.tripod.com/~MaryMae/jarli...

Answer 23

A box of kitchen gadgets would be neat. Throw in some oddball things aside from spatulas and the like.

If they really like to cook alot you could get them a pasta maker.

Or for a more personal touch, order a custom print or throw blanket with their name and the wedding date on it.

Answer 24

Probably the random kitchen items.. but make it interesting.. choose a theme.. maybe italian.. add some olive oil, a cheese grater, a garlic press, something like that.  Don't just randomly through it in a box (although, I'm sure presentation doesn't really matter.. I mean, seriously here.. who DOESN'T like a present?).

You could do baking as a "theme" to your gift, I've seen jars of dry ingredients where all you have to add is eggs and oil, etc, you could make something like that from scratch.. add cookie sheets, cup cake tins, a wisk, things like that too..

If all else fails, go for the registry (even though you don't want to) It's guaranteed to be something they want, even if they got one already..

I should take my own advice.. I have a wedding to go to on Sat!

Answer 25

Personally, I would prefer the cheese board with tools inside.  You could even take it a step further and include a membership to a "Cheese of the Month" club or something similar (I think some do short memberships, like 2 or 3 months long).  They would remember your gift when each shipment arrived!

I just typed in "Cheese of the Month club" into Yahoo search, and a whole bunch of options came up.

Answer 26

Decorative serving bowl or platter, actually - crystal or pottery is nice.

http://www.boscovs.com/StoreFrontWeb/Pro...

http://www.beallsflorida.com/default.jsp...

http://www.amazon.com/dp/B000N29JY8?smid...

I like functional pottery pieces, and received several wonderful ones for our wedding. We got a soup tureen; tea-keeper and pottery mugs; serving bowls. Check around your local area for pottery and other handmade pieces.

http://www.shoptheescape.com/item.html?c...

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My other suggestion is a tiered serving platter - I have two - one is crystal and one ceramic (more an everyday one).

http://www.ross-simons.com/products/6254...

http://www.jafgifts.com/ALEXANDRIA-2-TIE... one is SO cute - I want one!

http://www.target.com/Sentiments-2-Tier-...

This is beautiful - I love venezia crystal 'anything' -

http://www.buy.com/prod/venezia-crystal-...

http://www.jafgifts.com/BAMBOO-DESIGN-CA...

Answer 27

I totally understand where you are coming from - but just make sure you know what they already have!  (The biggest problem at our wedding - and engagement - was that a lot of people bought wine glasses... we didn't have them on our gift list but people just bought them... even my parents-in-law bought us some... I mean what are we going to do with 50 wine glasses - all in different styles???)  

Ok - after having said that - if it were up to me then I would love the cheese board - but probably never use it.  I would also love the oil and vinegar holder - and would use this one all the time (actually this was on our gift list but no one got it for us!)  I would also love the serving bowl - but only if it was in my taste... there is nothing worse than having to pretend to like something that is not something you actually like!  The random kitchen items would be cool - but again, it depends what they already have - you could easily double a lot of things with that.  The place settings would be quite usefull as you can never usually have too many of them.

Other than that, I LOVED the idea of the cleaner.  That is so great - definately something I would give as a pressie (and would have loved to get!)

Some things that we got that we really liked were a hand-made spice rack (my uncle works with wood).  Also a beautiful enlarged and framed photo that an aunt took - she is an artistic photographer and gave us a choice of 5-6 framed photos to choose from.  Another beautiful but useless pressie that we love was from my parents - they bought some coloured blown glass 'vases' that are really more for show than anything - but part of what makes a house a home!

Answer 28

The cheese board or serving bowls are good options- good for entertaining yet practical! Gifts off of registries are boring, its like a shopping list- I would love to receive these unique and thoughful gifts- I bet they will too!