White guy's standards are too high for me, agree?

Question

Ok I use to be a size 0......and kinda let myself go to a size 10...so yea. But before all the guys wanted me big time when I was a size 0....now...well...there gone since the weight gain : ( I use to be 117 pounds now am 198 pounds! Thanks to good old fashion food.

But my best friend who is black has been trying to gain weight, when it comes easy to me. She can have a mc donald meal and not gain but if I even look at a meal I feel fater....more in the thigh area..always.

But my friend is a size 2 and me a 10 and its so werid all the white guys want her and the black guys are more into me. To me the white guys standards are to be questioned....its so unfair I can't be the perfect female. I can't eat, but my friend can.

Why can't white guys be nice and not shallow like black guys?

Yes Depressed. If I eat likemy friend thats another 5 pounds added on.

And it feels worse all these guys seem to be begging for her and when I come around they seem to be walking pretty fast away...the same guys who were shy and interested in me until the weight gain.

I think things need to change everywhere because its not fair!

Answer 1

I see your point, a lot of white guys do like really small women, thankfully my husband isn't like that, he is always telling me that if i gain weight it doesn't matter, because he likes to see a oman with curves. And i find that for the most part black and hispanic men are attracted to a more full figure. Just find a man that loves you for you, no matter if he is black, white, asian, hispanic, whatever!!!!! Good luck!!!

Answer 2

because black guys like women with big thighs and rumps.  its has nothing to do with them being less judgmental.  they in general have different tastes than white males.  women are just as picky as men.  how many women talk about how disgustingly hairy robin williams is?  pu-lease!

edit: robin williams is ugly? so we admit women judge on looks?  lose some weight honey or find you a nice black guy.  seeing your responses, your personality is far more ugly than your body could ever be.

Answer 3

Well, I don't know what white and black have to do with it.  High standards is not a bad thing.  Weight is maybe not the standard.  There may be many variables.

Here my story, please.  Okay, I was in anger management group.  All young men except me and the group counslor or whatever.  Anyway, I was over hearing a conversation.  This blond-haired blue-eyed man said his girlfriend would never cheat on him.  There were several black men that thought this untrue.  One of them even gave certain gestures like he was simulating having s*x almost as if with her.  I feel they may have even set out to prove him wrong.  This took me back to a time when I was young:  I had a man that said he wanted to marry.  I was terrified of marrying as my parents devoirced and I was afraid this would not work out.  He dated many women unknown to me.  One day my neighbor told me of his unfaithfulness.  The next thing I was hit on by a black man.  I really didn't want him.  Anyway, it had gotten out that I liked blacks, (I guess).

Later in life, I found it to be a myth that white women want black men.  This is a belief among some men.  I also found that black men are looked at as some kind of geru about s*x.  Like if some white man has a s*x problem, they get advice from a black man.  Stupid, stupid, stupid.  I also think that black men do dirty deeds dirt cheap, like if a white man wants to dump a girl, they get a black man to do it.  Like if they want to devorce their wives without paying alomony, get a black man to commit adultry with her and then they can scream adultry in court.  This is basically they are not dealing with life on lifes terms.   Also, black men have always been known to pimp typically.  

Men are very brutish.  Okay, this is how stupid I think white men are for trying to get advice from black men for s*x.  There is a tribe in Africa where it is known, the father is to sleep with the daughter to teach her how to have s*x.  They think women are this stupid.

What perversion.  I live in a world like this.  I have been dooped by plenty of people.  No one no matter what myth they believe can make me think I want a black man sexually.  

Sometimes, I think black men take white women because they want to hurt white men.  

I HAVE HEARD THAT BLACKS ARE TAUGHT FROM CERTAIN PULPETS TO MIX WITH AS MANY WHITES AS THEY CAN.

It is a MYTH that white women want black men.  I do not want a pimp.

I have heard that there have been certain men hired to make sure there are no virgins in the towns/cities.  This is white men I believe. The word virgin is sometimes used to mean young maidens and just that young maidens.  Why would someone what to get rid of all young maidens?  

I should be shouting.  I feel so stupid, stupid, stupid when it comes to what really goes on in this world as to how I see it.

Please ask God to help you understand and to keep you.

Thank you so much for your curiosity. It sure got a lot off mhy mind and there is so much more.  Hope in some way this helps.  Be watchful.  High standards can be awesome, if they are in the Eternal.

Answer 4

Don't worry, teen guys are far too influenced by the media.  It is not you.  Don't worry, when you get out of high school guys realize it is not all about how flat your stomach is and how big your b***s are.

If you are already out of high school...I suggest YOU raise your standards.

Answer 5

I dont understand men either. When i was fat and ugly i couldnt even get a guy to look at me. Now im slim, i cant get guys to leave me alone lol.

It is a known fact that white guys like their women model material and black guys like beef if you get what i mean?? Lol i hate to stereotype but thats the way it is. I would stop focusing on them and focus more on what youre eating. Being a size 10 is still slim i dont know who told you it isnt lol. I bet youre still beautiful though  

Answer 6

Maybe it isn't the weight that is making them act differently....maybe it's that your attitude has changed because of the weight. Were you more confident and outgoing when you were thinner? Maybe just a simple change of attitude would help. Or you could start looking for different male friends. Or you could lose the weight. You should probably do that anyways - you would feel *way* better and have more energy! Take up dancing. It's a really fun way to tone up and get fit.

Answer 7

Seriously you sound really stupid. Think about what you said and think of this....if you were a size 0 your saying black guys wouldnt like you. Every race is shallow and all have different standards. Also there a white guys who like bigger women. One more thing....0 to10...daaaaammmnnnn

Answer 8

Well let see . You can write and spell without using the text type writing we see here everyday. So I see an education. I see someone who despite giving up on a relationship within her race still fighting for it. So I see Strength. You understand how you became over weight. I see someone who is self aware and admits her own short falls.

Skinny girls are great to look at but require to much work. You can't play rough with them they break.  

Don't look with your eyes but your heart and mind.

Answer 9

if your 198 lbs then your bigger then a size 10!!!

Answer 10

Um, men can be shallow regardless of race: black, white, or purple.

Answer 11

WAIT! Your complaining about white guys being shallow. YET, you are discriminating against them at the same time.

Why is it so important that WHITE guys find you attractive? What makes white guys better than other types?

You can't discriminate racially, THEN complain about being discriminated against.

Hypocrisy? I think so...

Answer 12

yeah, this reminds me of the time i asked this hispanic girl out. she said she would consider it but she has a hard time dating white guys. i said why??? she said because white guys dont like their women to eat. whereas a spanish or black guy will tell the girl to keep on eatin!

Answer 13

I think you should lay off that burger and start working on your self esteem and eating habits. It's not the white guy, it's you.

Answer 14

You're stereotyping...not all black guys are going to be into overweight women.

Also, not being attracted to someone who is overweight isn't shallow, everyone is attracted to different things, and just because you weight gain has made some people less attracted to you doesn't make them shallow...seriously.

The world isn't going to change just so you can gain as much weight as you want.

Gaining 80 pounds and having men lose interest doesn't exactly make them shallow.

edit: just cuz the ones you hang out with are more attracted to you, that doesn't mean ALL or even most black guys will be.

Answer 15

14 stone? depends on your build/height (personally) - that and theres guys white, black or otherwise that will find you attractive.

And it is also possible you may have a food allergy intolerance that prevents you from eating and keeping a better weight balance.

I have known a few that changed thier diets and suddenly went from huge to very nice.

Answer 16

You appear to be a racist.  Your weight wouldn't bother me, but the fact that you stereotyped all white guys is ignorant and repulsive.  Work on your inside and maybe everyone will like you a bit more.

Answer 17

Black men seem to like girls a little thicker than white guys. Not all, but a lot. At least, that's what every single one of my black guy friends at work have told me. They all seem to go for the bigger girls.  

Answer 18

white people are more superficial, I find them in general to be more synthetic than black people

most guys want the perfect woman...but white men care more about what the jones think..mean what others think of them, yea, unfortuanately white guys have more self esteem issues than black guys

Answer 19

I know a purple guy who only dates size 0.