White men...do you expect black women to ask you out?

Question

If you're interested in her?

I get tonsssss of white guys staring, smiling, complimenting, etc...but they seldom ask me out.

I know that this doesn't mean they are all interested in dating...but some must be...so are they waiting for me to ask or what?

Answer 1

Personally I have always been so busy with my own life that I never considered it from any woman. Call me old fashion :)

But of coarse I still adore long dresses and long hair. Nothing revealing, and the mind to ponder the person instead of the body.

Indeed, that is a possibility?

God Speed to ya.

Answer 2

It has been my experience that it is a stigma for a white man to date a black woman.  Yes there are more and more now, but I think it has to do with acceptance from their friends.  Their friends generally look down upon it, but they wouldn't dare tell you (nor their friends tell them).  They just don't want to go through the things that happens when you date "interracially."  They may find you attractive, h**l like you for years, but they will not ever ask you, unless you make that move.  I would advise against that because if they cannot respect you enough to ask you out then they are not worth it.  If a man likes you he will take the time to show you he is interested, rejection or no rejection.  

I also think the person who said that "white" men hold on to socially accepted stereotypes of black women is correct.  They believe we stick to our "own."  They have the image of the "strong" black woman who doesn't need a man.  Even if they know in their heart, like the person said, they are the ones selling themselves short.  Black women have a lot of hurdles to overcome.  Not only are we defined as black, but we are women too.  That in itself covers a broad spectrum of oppression and discrimination.

Answer 3

You snooze you lose! This is exactly what men of all races fail to understand while they are sitting there staring in the past it has allowed me tp slide in and take that beautiful black woman right from out under their stare.

Answer 4

Perhaps they're intimidated?

I've never tried, but I think I would hesitate to approach a black woman. For some reason, I would feel like she wouldn't have much interest in me, so unless she came to talk to me, I doubt it would happen. It isn't a matter of me not being interested in her, but I'd feel somewhat strange approaching her. I'm not sure why, but I feel like it is a pretty common thing among white men. Perhaps it's some form of a social stigma - when you picture an interracial couple, typically the guy is the one pictured as being the minority. Because of this, I'd assume a lot of white guys think that they're going to be rejected if they make a move (so they assume that black girls tend to stick to dating black guys). As wrong as that generalization may be, I think that most people make it.

My suggestion would be to approach them. If a black girl approached me and showed interest, I think I would be much more comfortable and definitely would be more likely to ask her out if I had less fear of rejection (aka knew she was interested). As I stated before, I doubt I would approach her, even if I were interested.

Answer 5

I think  they do-its the same with me. guys say im pretty and hot or whatever but they never ask me out. they just look but never do anything about it.

yet i used to be asked out all teh time by other types of guys/

but i wouldn't know im not a white guy