My wife and I decided to try and make our marriage work after she filed for divorce in 2006. In 2007 I asked her before going in front of our divorce judge for the final time if our 21 year marriage and 4 children deserved us to really try and make it work. At that time I had been sober for 12 months. She told me that she agreed so we called off the divorce. I understood that she had alot of anger stored up in her and there are alot of issue's as I did play the typical role of an alcohlic and had an affair 15 years ago and another one while we were seperated after so told me she was having an affair as well but later told me it was a lie, but she still counts it as an affair which is ok I understand. But heres my question, she is going to therapy and I feel she going to the wrong one. She tells me she doesn"t care who I have s*x with and tells me "so what you did" when I talk to her about her having s*x with someone when she goes out and I'm forbidden to go with. But yet she tells me she wants trust and respect. Can someone honestly ask that of someone while telling me what she tells me, or is this the therapy talking?
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