Who's wrong and who's right?

Question

My 22 yr old Niece who lives with us, went to Las Vegas last week to see a basketball tournament and I thought nothing of it. Well, on that same day, I went to her Dad's house. Her Stepmother and Sister were home but not her Dad. They asked what my Niece was up to that day and I told them that she went to Las Vegas for a tournament (innocently chit chatting). 2 days later, she came up to me and asked why I told her Dad. I told her that I didn't, then she called me a liar and walked away. Well, I found out through the grapevine that the day she left, she had asked her Dad for some cash to buy a new cell phone. So when her Dad found out that she went to Las Vegas, it angered him because he figured that she doesn't have money for a cell phone but she has money for vegas. (which, I totally agree) So I guess he called my Niece and scolded her but now she's mad at me because she thinks it my fault. My Niece is always scheming to get money and I think this was one time that she got caught red-handed and she's mad at me? First of all, she never told me it was a secret, Second, she shouldn't be scheming. Who's at fault here?

Answer 1

u r not at fault.  she is probably just trying to find someone to blame for her mess.  alot of people like to do that.  she needs to get a job if she needs the money.  

Answer 2

She's beyond wrong. If she's grown enough to be going to Vegas, she needs to be grown enough to get a job and earn her own money rather than scheming to get it.

Are you SURE you want this young lady living with you? If she's willing to lie, and scheme to get her cash, I should think having her in your home would probably be a bad idea. May want to go around checking and securing your valuables at the very least.

Answer 3

Don't worry yourself about it. It's your niece's fault. A grown woman like her should be able to take responsibility for her actions.

Answer 4

You are both in the wrong. You lied  to her about saying something to her dad, and she lied about the use of the money. I don't think it matters how big or how small, a lie is a lie and it is wrong. Other than that, your neice is just looking for someone to blame other than herself. Don't let it get to you.

Answer 5

her fault becoz your just telling the truth to her DAD... her dad needs to know about her whereabouts. Your not wrong itz good u told her dad.  

Answer 6

You're right... and you niece is a 13!tch. Sorry, I couldn't help it!

EDIT: Danielle R - you're a moron. She didn't say anything to her neice's dad. She told her niece's stepmother and sister. Her dad probably found out from those two people.

Answer 7

True indeed she should not be schemeing, but still learn to not be a blabber mouth.

Answer 8

Your niece is a user!

Answer 9

Your niece has a lot of growing up to do.  She is 22years old and is still asking her parents for money?!? She needs to get a reality check.  You were not being a blabber mouth because if she didn't want her business out on the streets than she should've thought about that when she was plotting to manipulate her father for money and than throw a 3 year old child tantrum with you.  Don't put up with her nonsense.  If she doesn't comply put her in her place.  Its the only way she'll recognize something called tough love.  

Answer 10

Your niece.  You did nothing wrong.  She is the one who lied to get money.

Answer 11

There is not doubt it is your niece's fault. She lied and got busted. There is not reason for you to feel any guilt. She is a grown woman, who is responsible for her own actions. She needs to start acting like a grown woman. Let her be mad. She will get over it. Beside she will need you in the future. As soon as that happens all will be forgotten.

Answer 12

You're not 'at fault' because your conversation was innocent.  You didn't set out to drop her in it with her Dad.  However, why did she need money for a phone?  Maybe her trip was already paid for and then she found her phone was a problem.  You two need a calm talk with each other.

Answer 13

she is CLEARLY the one at fault here. If she didn't want anyone to know where she was going and what she would be doing, she should have never told anyone. Sounds like a typical 22-year-old selfish brat to me.

Just because she lied doesn't mean YOU have to lie, too. (by lying for her)

and THAT is EXACTLY what I would tell her. Whether or not she can handle that is HER problem.

Furthermore, when you lie for someone, even though you are doing them a "favor", it's YOU they lose respect for, IF they ever had it at all.

Answer 14

I think we all KNOW she's at fault  not you.