Who Do I Pick For My Maid Of Honor?!?

Question

ok so its kind of a long story but i am planning my wedding for next may. i have a 16 year old sister from my mom in las vegas and a 14 year old sister from my dad in socal. i didnt grow up knowing my 16 year old sister because i always lived with my father in california. now that i moved out and to las vegas, ive become really close to my 16 year old sister. but before i left my 14 year old sister was my very best friend.

to make a long story short...i have yet to ask anyone to be in my wedding because i just dont want to hurt anyones feelings by choosing one or the other.

has anyone been in the same position? i dont really have any other girls to ask, i will have bridesmaids but none of which i would ask to be my MOH.

PLEASE HELP!!

Answer 1

ask the 16 yr old.  she is older  she lives in town  2 good reasons

Answer 2

My sister couldn't choose one MOH and ended up picking both me and our other sister. There is nothing saying you cannot have two :) If that's out of the question, I feel you should pick the one you were originally close with, but that is totally up to you. Good luck and congrats!!

Answer 3

Wow. This is a tough decision since they both mean a lot to you. But do you know how either of them would feel if left out? Why don't you talk to them. Explain that you want both of them as your MOH but have to chose one. See what they say and think what you'd feel if you were not chosen by your older sister.

There is nothing wrong with having two MOH though. It'll make it twice as special!

Answer 4

Have both of them! By the way, a MATRON of honor is a married lady, but they could both be your MAID of honor! Also, here is some more great info to confirm that it's OK to have two!

Definitions

Maid of Honor: (noun)

1. The chief unmarried woman attendant of a bride.

2. An unmarried noblewoman attendant upon a queen or princess

Matron of Honor: (noun)

1. A married woman serving as chief attendant of a bride at a wedding.

The maid of honor is usually a sister or close friend of the bride. It is absolutely okay to have more than one Maid or Matron of Honor in recent times since many brides have a few close friends they want to be included. In history Maids of Honor became more common when weddings were planned. For several days before the marriage, a "senior' maid of honor attended to the bride-to-be. This maid or matron of honor, as we know her today, made sure that the bridal wreath was completed and helped the bride get ready for the wedding. In addition, she helped the bride decorate for the wedding feast.

Being the Maid of Honor has a significant responsibility for you. You are the one who keeps things organized and under control as well as being the "crisis counselor" for the bride :) Your moral support and planning will help make a difference in the outcome of the wedding experience from beginning to end!

Best wishes for a lifetime of happiness!

Answer 5

I haven't been in this situation.. but one day i will because i have two sisters that i'm pretty close to.

You can actually have one MOH, and one Maitren (sp?) OH...  and you just have the younger one be the maitren OH.

If you don't wanna do that, talk to both of them at the same time and explain the situation. they'll understand what you're going through.

Answer 6

Why dont you have the 16 yr old be the maid of honor.. and the 14 yr old be the Jr. Bridesmaid... the 14 yr old knows nothing about weddings.. and your maid of honor is the one in charge of the bridal shower and is supposed to be your right hand man.. how can a 14 yr old help with anything? plus a MOH needs to be there in all your decision making.. so since u are close to the 16 yr old she will help u with the planning and organizing.

Answer 7

You might look up the definition of junior bridesmaid and their ages as well as the age of a maid of honor. Maybe they both are too young which would solve your problem. I feel that the 14 might be too  young to be maid of honor just because it entails work and experience taking care of things. But I havent checked the etiquette books

Answer 8

well what my mom did [[she had to sisters]] was she picked her best friend as her moh and her sisters were her bridesmaids because she knew that if she chose one sister for MOH then the other sister would be mad

i would tlk to ur mom or sum one like that like aunt or someone

this would be my last resort [[VERY last resort only do if you really truly r that confused]]

like if you ask and one of ur sis's doesnt wanna be MOH [[cuz of the responsibilty and stuff]] then pick the other

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

Pick the one who you think will be responsible and will help the most. You can also get 2 know ur other sister by picking her or have 2

Answer 10

well if i were u i would have the 16 year old b the moh and the 14 yea old as the flower girl.

Answer 11

Who will be more of a help to you? Is one more responsible? Is one in the location that you are having the wedding? They would probably be the more practical choise. But if you really can't choose...have co-MOH. No big deal. Its your day. Do whatever YOU want! =)

Answer 12

At 16 and 14 years old, it would be asking a lot of either of them to be a Maid of Honor. Why don't you have both of them do it, and split the responsibilities between them?

Tell them how important both of them are in your life, and that you don't want to over-burden either one of them with too much to do.

It should work out perfectly. If you have a list of things to do, you can also ask each one to pick one thing they really want to do. Or try to divide the tasks in a way that they both like.

Congratulations!

Answer 13

How about letting both of them being your MOHs.  I am sure they would both be honored and then you don't have to hurt anyone's feelings.  That's what I would do.

Answer 14

Who's to say you can't have two maids of honor? Part of having your own wedding means you can make your own traditions!

For me, I didn't have a MAID of honor, but my brother was my MAN of honor. My husband's best friend is a woman so she became his best LADY.

However, you would need witnesses to sign for your wedding and that's usually done by the maid of honor and the best man. In most states the witnesses need to be over at least 18. You may want to check the laws of your state to see if your sister is eligible for that.

Answer 15

I think you should pick a bestee for this one or let them both be your MOH if its possible. Be fair in my opinion i would pick the first closest sister i had

Answer 16

This is an easy answer. Have them both! They are both your sisters. I only have 1 sister and she will be my MOH. But if I had 2 sisters I would definitely have them both.

Answer 17

Have you considered having two maids of honor? That's what my cousin did. She and I have grown up together and are more like sisters. But she is extremely close with her best friend, so instead of trying to chose between the two of us, she asked both of us to be her maids of honor. As for lining up, she did that by our height. Good luck!