Who can throw the bridal shower?

Question

My mom wants to throw me one,but people are saying she isn't suppose to.

Answer 1

The 'etiquette' on this seems to depend where you live, or what customs are in your area!

Where I'm from, and amongst our family and friends, it's totally fine for family to throw the shower - and they most often do - the moms, with sisters, aunties, and bridesmaids if they are around, do it together.

Answer 2

She isn't according to etiquette. But do you really care? Anymore, the rules have changed so tell your mom you're happy she's throwing your shower and enjoy.

Good luck to you.

Answer 3

I know that previous wedding etiquette has said the bridal party, but I think that it does not matter now a days. I am getting married in the middle of 2009 and the two moms and my bridal party are all throwing me the shower. My aunt was married two years ago and my grandparents threw her the shower. It is all up to the person!

Answer 4

Generally it is the bridal party that throws the bridal shower. And sometimes it is either one or the other set of parents. But you never have to go by tradition with this. Most of your guests are not going to care who throws the party itself (unless it really sucks). Just make sure whoever it is, is some one you trust to do a good job and then enjoy yourself!

Answer 5

My mom threw my sister's last Sunday. It was a big surprise party for both my sister and her fiancee.  Whoever wants to throw it can, it will probably take a group effort anyway.  My sister isn't having bridesmaids (who usually throw the party).

Your mom will probably get a real thrill out of throwing the party because it's her way to contribute to the wedding without stepping on anyone's toes with planning the real wedding. I know that because my sister did so much planning and they are paying for their wedding themselves, throwing the shower was a way for my mom to really feel like "mother of the bride".

I don't think etiquette rules really matter in this instance, they are just there to make brides feel bad and make people crazy!

Answer 6

This isn't a question of etiquette, just tradition. It's traditional for the maid of honor to plan the shower, but she is certainly not the only person who can. If your mom wants to throw you one, let her! It will make her feel good and take the pressure off your MOH and bridesmaids.

For example, I'm an MOH but I live in a different state than the bride. Her family threw the shower because it was in their hometown. No big deal to anyone.

Answer 7

Technically, your mother shouldn't be doing it, but perhaps she could have one of her sisters (or sister-in-laws??) host it on her behalf.  

In my area, the bridal shower was traditionally thrown by an aunt or another female relative (just not a mother).  The bridesmaids may or may not have participated, but that is slowly changing because many couples in this area now wait until their late 20s or 30s to marry.   It used to be more common to marry at 19 or 20 in this area, so it made sense that the aunts would be in a better position to host a shower.  

Among older couples in my area, it is more common for the bridesmaids to throw the shower because the bridesmaids are generally in that same age range and more established.  

Best wishes!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

My mom and her friends threw me one.  I think anyone should be able to.  If she wants to invite people from both sides and make it a group effort, then all the better.  If gives everyone a chance to get to know each other better.

Answer 9

Traditionally, the bridal party throws the shower. But I am in the same boat as you. I am only having a matron of honor and she has helped me tons already. She can't really afford to throw a party right now and her house isn't the best. But my sister who isn't in the wedding, wants to do it but doesn't have a place to throw it. I have been trying to convince my mom but she doesn't think it is appropriate seeing that she is the mother of the bride. I can't wait to tell her that it's no big deal! Thank!

Answer 10

she's really not supposed to....the maid (and bridesmaids) of honor is supposed to be  doing that.  however, if she really wants to do it, maybe she could work with the maid of honor and jointly throw you one.  in past experience,  help is always appreciated!

Answer 11

typically the maid of honor is to host the bridal shower..but your mom can if she wants to.

Answer 12

I've been a bridesmaid 13 times....out of those 13 times, the mothers threw the Bridal Shower only 3 times.

Normally it is the Bridal Party that does the Shower, but your bridesmaids can help your mom!

Congrats!

Answer 13

Technically, your mom can't host the party, but many bridal showers I've attended were at the mom's home.

Answer 14

Anyone but the bride and her immediate family can throw a bridal shower.  Perhaps you can talk to your mom and one of your girlfriends to see if the girlfriend will help out by being the official hostess and you mom can do lots of the fun leg work that goes into throwing the event.

Answer 15

It's in poor etiquette for your inmediate family to host a shower for you. Your Maid of Honor, your in-laws,  a coworker, a neighbor are appropriate candidates.