Who do you believe has a harder time forgiving-men or women? Why?

Question

"In seven forgiveness-related studies researcher Exline conducted between 1998 through 2005 with more than 1,400 college students, gender differences between men and women consistently emerged."

What did they find? "Men have a harder time forgiving than women do," according to Case Western Reserve University psychologist Julie Juola Exline.

Why did they think there was a difference? "Exline said prior studies have shown that at baseline (without any interventions), men tend to be more vengeful than women, who have been taught from childhood to put themselves "in the shoes of others" and empathize with them."

Good news though: "But that can change if men develop empathy toward an offender by seeing they may also be capable of similar actions. Then the gender gap closes, and men become less vengeful."

Here's the study article: http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2008/03/080303145228.htm

Who do you believe has a harder time forgiving-men or women? Why? What of the study?

Answer 1

I have to say that I, (a man) find it harder to forgive, or admit error, and not because I'm a man, or hispanic, or my upbringing, or c**p like that. But this behavior did cost me a marriage. This time around, right or wrong, I now am quick to own up to my shortcomings, and the issues surrounding them were probably too insignificant to begin with.

Answer 2

While I may agree with the premise of this study. It fails to discuss reconciliation. It takes one to forgive, but two to reconcile. Woman may forgive easier than men, but they have a difficult time with reconciliation. When men do forgive each other. The issue is never discussed again. Women on the other hand will bring up a prior incident when emotions run hot. They may forgive, but they never forget. Men on the other hand choose to forget.

Answer 3

Definitely, women.

Women will hold a grudge forever.

Men will say "Hey, that was 14 years ago! Who cares anymore?"

The study is c**p.

Answer 4

Men, like I have said many times before "masculinity" is NOT A GOOD THING. Look at some of the males that are on this site.

Answer 5

It depends on the individual. s*x can't determine a universal standard for who forgives more.

Answer 6

In my experience women have a harder time forgiving smaller offences but men have a harder time forgiving larger offences.

Answer 7

Guys forgive way easier than women. Women hold on little grudges forever.

Answer 8

Control  of minds.http://www.newswithviews.com/NWO/newworl...

Answer 9

"h**l hate no fury like a woman scorned."  That is the truth.

Answer 10

Why the heck should I  care. I will never be confronted by all women and you will never be confronted by all men. We will both be confronted by individual men and individual women who fit someplace in the multi-million women or men of the specie. You will have to deal with that individual and not the multi-million other women or men. Exline just needed some thing to do to look busy. Ms. Jennings, I'm going to forgive you for asking that question. There, Exlines findings are now shot to heck.

Answer 11

I believe that women have a harder time forgiving for some reason, h**l hath no fury and all that.

My ex wife still brings up stuff that I've long forgotten, it seems so fresh in her mind.

This woman Julia, she's a feminist right?

Do you think that she is capable of being objective in her research?

EDIT, im not concerned about my unforgiving ex, i just put the phone down!

Can you forgive men?

Answer 12

In my opinion I think women have a harder time forgiving. We have a more sensitive mind.