Who do you think is right? (parents are fighting)

Question

ok so i know that it is between them, and i respect that. I am going to say nothing to them.

its me and my sister who wants to know.

my older sister, Casza (19) thinks my mom is right

i (13) think, my dad is right

and my little sister, Brianna (12) just cried.

heres what happened.

we all went to a wedding, and my mom had a few too many drinks, along with Casza. My dad didnt drink because he had to drive us home. So when it came time for dancing. Brianna, my dad and i did not want to dance. (we just dont dance, and who would want to dance with a bunch of drunks spilling vodka everywhere?)

my mom and casza danced from 7:30- 11:30, knowing that i had a migrane and Brianna had to leave for camp in the morning.

My mom is in her late 30's and she danced like she was 17, with a bunch of 25 year olds. (now my dad was kinda mad about this, but he didnt really care) SO FINALLY, the DJ played the last song, (thank god)

my dad went to go get my mom and sister, and they were like 'hold on!'

so then my sister was going to go party with these guys,

and we were about to leave, but Brianna stayed for like 2 minutes to make sure my mom would come.

as we are walking down the hall, (me and dad) Brianna comes running and says, "yeah, um this is going t o make you even more mad, mom's not coming".

Dad was like enraged, and he went to go get her, (she was going to stay at her sisters)

so after some nigociating and tears, my dad was pissed, my mom, aunt and Brianna were all crying, and Casza and i were fighting.

so my mom went home with us, and it was a VERY quiet ride home,

they argued when they got home, and my mom slept on the couch,

they havent talked since.

who do you think is right?

(please dont judge them, they are really good people)

Answer 1

Your father is right.

She went to the party knowing she had to come home at some point.

Had she made arrangements while sober then yes, she would be right.

There should not have been an argument, your mum being so drunk and dancing with younger men is rather embarressing.

I for one do not plan to drink as an adult. At a wedding, I'd be ballroom dancing rather than what you have described. Sorry, that's the way I am.

Sure your mum can have fun but not embarrassing herself and her husband and becoming ridiculously drunk. She danced for 4 hours, that should be enough. If she want to stay she should have made arrangements. You shouldn't destroy plans like that, it's SELFISH.

Answer 2

I thnk your dad was right for not wanted his wife partying like a teenager in front of him.

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Answer 3

i see both sides of the story. your mom can still have fun. i think the whole thing was blown out of proportion. they both were wrong and right in different ways

Answer 4

I think Your'e mom is right because evry one needs fun stop beeing so selfish

Answer 5

I think when your parents go to a party they should take turns drinking one time your dad drinks and the other time your mom drinks...Thats what my parents do and it works.

Answer 6

There really isn't a right or wrong here; just a difference of opinions.

Let it all blow over; things will sort themselves out.

Drinking was involved, so the whole situation is fuzzy.

If your parents love each other, they'll be OK.

Answer 7

Hi ;)

I think your dad should have drove with you and you younger sister back home, and your mom could have either stayed to sleep there or taken a taxi. I do get how your father was feeling, but showing it in front of you and letting all of you, kids, know about that was not right.

I'm not judging either. Both were right. Your mom wanted to have a good time and your father should have entitled her to that right (if it's not a habit). He could have very well left without her, and she probably could afford a cab.

On the other hand, your mom didn't think of your father's feeling and yours before partying. That's not the nicest thing but sometimes moms too need to think a little about themselves.

Good luck with that.

Answer 8

WEll,

I take both sides.

It's, a party.

She wanted to have fun.

Hang out with the bridesmades.

But when you had a migrane, and your sister had camp,

She should've went home.

But then your dad,

should've respected that she wanted to have fun.

Emma

But then again he was right.

So they both where wrong and right.

Emma

Answer 9

see, i don't want to sound rude or something, but i don't think anyone was right.i mean, i know she wanted to have fun, but she has family, so she needs to think about you too.still, you should think about her needs too.

Answer 10

Mom is bad.

Dad is good.

Answer 11

Definitely your dad

Answer 12

umm i really dont know i dont think n eof them were right.

Answer 13

Your dad is right. He most likely thinks that seeing your mom act like that probably won't be a very good influence on you. But, your mom should have been allowed stay at her sister's because it is her sister and she probably wanted to spend time with her. I know that if you try to interfere with your parents when they are fighting it won't do any good. I just get yelled at every time it happens.

Answer 14

there is no question about it

your mom and sister weren't very mature that night

they should be an example to u and your little sister!

you acted like your mother was suppose to act!!

Answer 15

Your dad is definetley right.Your mom should not have tipsy and danced the night away while her children needed to go home(migraine,camp etc)your mom has no excuse for being irresponsible in front of her children(im not saying shes an irresponsible person btw)Hope things work out over time!

Answer 16

I think they're both wrong. Your mom and sister shouldn't have gotten drunk in the first place. (BTW, if they remember all this they weren't that drunk.) However, your dad should've known that this was going to happen, at least with your mom. He's known her for long enough. He should've brought you and Brianna home and tucked you in and then returned to the reception or have made other plans for them (stay at your aunt's, get a cab, etc.).

The question to ask shouldn't be who is right. It should be: Who got cheated? The answer: You and Brianna.

Answer 17

This depends on a variety of factors.  Assuming your mom is responsible and loyal and what not.....  I don't know why she wouldn't want to come home with her family.   hmmmm....  19 year old girl is drinking, and wants to go to a party with a bunch of guys.  Sounds like a bad idea to me.  She's got to learn some life lessons sometime, but not yet.  Who knows what your father said, or your  mothers reasons for not wanting to come home?  Those are really the deciding factors aren't they?  The things we say, the reasons we have for what we do, often mean more than what we actually do.  

Personally, if my wife gets drunk, I can't wait to get her home so we can enjoy the uninhibited qualities of her personality together.

Answer 18

i understand they are good people and who ever says they are not then the opinion sucks

umm i think like u,dad is right bcoz i mean ur mom got drunk and made a lil fool or herself by acting so young and especially she did not act responsible to brianna bcoz of the camp,so brianna would be tired if she  goes away and ur mom did not consider that and thats rude and ignorant and especially bcoz brianna is HER daughter :/

i think its one of these things every adult has,every couple i mean, arguments bcoz of a mistake,

if they love eachother then it will all b alright BUT try to not argue with ur older sis in front of them and comfort brianna wen she cries when shes sad :)

good luck :)

xoxo

Answer 19

everyone needs to have fun, even your mom

it just can't get to out of control, like having your 19 year old daughter do who knows what with some guys.

so in a way, they're both right

Answer 20

i think your dad is right what was your mom thinking getting drunk in front of her 12 and 13 year old daughters you're dad has a right to be mad at her acting so imature im not trying judge but its true y ou're mom can have a couple of drinksa but to get drunk come on thats rediculous.