Who doesnt let their kids go hang out with their friends with parental supervision?

Question

Okay, question for all the teenagers and moms out there. Who doesnt let their kids hang out at the mall, with their friends, with parental supervision. If you arent allowed or dont let you kids hang out with their best friends under parental supervision, give me a good reason. My friends are perfectly good people. Not parties, just the mall. Who doesnt let a kid go to the mall. WHO LETS THEIR KID'S REPUTATION ROT IN THE SEWER CAUSE THEY DONT EVEN LET THEM GO OUTSIDE! They are fenced in inside a house with 3 locked doors, barred windows, and high fences surrounding the house. Who lets their kids go to school, go home, and repeat without hanging out with their friends UNDER PARENTAL SUPERVISION? Give me a good reason. ITS NOT LIKE EVERY SINGLE ONE OF US IS GONNA GET KIDNAPPED OR RANDOMLY MURDERED!? Which mother doesnt let her kids have a good time at the mall or at the beach? ITS NOT LIKE YOU CAN KEEP US IN A COCOON FOREVER! GIVE ME ONE GOOD FREAKIN REASON WHY I DESERVE THIS? I have straight A's, I am athletic and i am able to defend myself, I am on the student council. WHY THE h**l AM I NOT ABLE TO LIVE NORMALLY? Answer my question. Best answer 10 pts. No retarded ****. Which mother decides a person's first friend? Which mother reroutes her child's life so they cant go to the movie or anything. Who is the type of person who would decide a person's friends if they could? Tell me why the h**l am I still here inside with nearly no friends and my only friggin contacts in this endless summer vacation is through this computer?

Answer 1

I feel for you. Your parents think they are keeping you safe by doing this. They need to let you out and experiance life.  

Answer 2

Some parents go totally overboard. My mom was hyper-critical, but she always told us 4 kids "We trust you until you give us a reason not to." We never got in trouble with the police or did drugs. In the 70's the drug problem is as bad or worse than it is now, and a lot of parents that grew up in that generation are afraid that their kids are going to make the same mistakes and are even stricter than their own parents were. Try sitting down with your parents and asking them WHY they are so strict. Tell them that part of growing up is learning to make your own decisions, and mistakes.

Parents that are extremely strict don't seem to realize that once their kids are 18 that they can turn around and rebel.  

Answer 3

You seem like a very responsible kid, you have to show your parents that. It seems that your parents are being very over protective, my parents are like that too, but I get out of it by acting all depressed for a while, then finally yell at my mom and tell her Ive had a horrible day, and tell her you need to get out! I know it seems sort of emo,(if you do it right) but it works.

Answer 4

Yeah. I kinda know what you are talking about. It doesn't happen to me much but I have some friends who have the same problem. But if I were you, I would definitely go talk to them. Tell them about how your friends go out all the time alone. Or tell them that you really feel that you are old enough now that you are mature enough to not get in trouble with bad people, the law, etc. But if you don't talk to them about it, then nothing will ever happen and you will be trapped with them for some time. Hope this and everyone else's comments helped. Good luck with the parents....:]  

Answer 5

I was trapped by my parents till I was 26, I only escaped because I got married, and with marriage came freedom, from my parents. I was a teen in the 1970's and I never got to go to a mall, nor any dances.So you are not the only one that has been trapped. Can you sit down calmly and attempt to explain you need some space. Don't your grades count for anything?

Answer 6

I just want to tell you that I was that child your talking about, except for that you seem to have more freedom.  I wasn't allowed to be in sports or any after school activities.  It was like I went to school and came straight home it went that way all the way through high school.  My sisters and I were not even allowed to go to any formal dances at school or science camp and let alone attend a foot ball game at school.  We might have gone to may be one or two foot ball games.  I was the only one  that got to go to my prom my senior year.  My parent were strict.  We were never able to hang out with friends at the mall and let alone at the movies.  We begged and begged but my parents never let us.  Its a good thing we had a good relationship with my parents and I knew they loved me or else I would have done something stupid like run away with a guy and then regret it.

I am 37 years old and have three children of my own.  All under the age of 7.  I encourage my children  to be in sports and be involved in different activities.  I will be strict to a certain point and they will get their freedom as long as they show me they are responsible in every way.  

I understand  why may parents acted as they did with such strictness and I thank them for taking care of me even if it was strict.  They had their reasons thatt came from FEAR.  now that I am a parent I can understand their strictness with me and my sisterers.  I have that fear with my own children.  I can see things that can happen that my children can't see.  And it all has to do with maturity. I hope you can appreciate your parents and everything they do for you.  If you want more freedom show them how responsible you are.  Talk to them and let them know what is going on in you life with your friends and boyfriends.  This way they can see who you are and how your freinds are.  I sure hope you understand because if you don't right now, later you will when you have your own children.  

Answer 7

Well when I was a teen I felt similarly. I knew some friends who were allowed to hang out at the mall without parents and I wanted to go to the mall with my sister without parents, but they would not let me. At the time, I felt bad, like my parents did not trust me or thought I was not intelligent. Also, I felt that I was different. But now I know that different parents have different rules. You cannot compare yourself to someone with different parents. Although parents are NOT always right, they mean well. But I am sure you know that. Maybe you could compromise and talk to them about going to the mall with your friends, and they could like do their own shopping in the mall and check up on you here and there without your friends knowing. But you should always have a friend with you because that is important. While your safety is important, it is also important that you learn to be indepdendent, so you could keep yourself safe when your parents are not around. Parents often fear that their daugters will talk to some cute guy who winds up being dangerous, so inform them of your knowledge of staying safety. Even so, sometimes other friends could get you in trouble, so maybe go with friends that your parents could trust.

Answer 8

Sounds like someone has some parents that actually care about them and really love them.  

Wait until you have a child someday.  You'll know why.

Your parents may allow you to join a school related sport or school club/activity.  I'll bet they'd go for that, or Scouts, or 4-H, something like that.  Choose an activity like that which appeals to you and ask them.

They're just looking out for you.  Someday you'll actually appreciate it. ;-)  But by the sounds of it, that's a good fifteen years down the road.

Answer 9

if your mom hasnt already, let her meet your friends and possibly their parents. sounds like you are going to have to break your parents in slowly. you need to sit and talk with them dont vent like you did on here. ask them what their reasons/concerns are for not letting you go have some harmless fun. if they are worried about creeps taking you...do you have a cell phone? maybe you could have an agreement that YOU will call them every hour you are gone, sounds like alot but just check in, say i'm fine, we are doing, blah blah and i expect to be home at blah blah time. make sure your parents meet your friends. maybe a once a week you could have a couple close friends come over or spend the night so your parents know you guys are "behaved". also explain to them it would be a good idea for them to accept that you need socialization, because when you are 18 they wont have as much say and they should break in a little. if ALL fails...you have a WHOLE ADULT LIFE ahead of you, all of your young 20's to do as you please with no curfew or rules, so hold out hope. highschool is a very small part of your life.