Who gets damaged more-the people fighting every day or the person having to hear the fighting?

Question

Say in the situation where a parent and a teenager constantly are yelling at each other (no physical stuff), and they have a smaller sibling who doesn't get yelled at, but has to hear it in their household.

Obviously it is bad for both parties, but who do you think it affects more, in general?

What about when parents fight and the kids have to hear it?

Answer 1

That's a very good question.

I believe both parties suffer. I think it just effects them in different ways.

Like for kids who hear their parents fighting  they may think it's something they did wrong. They may grow up and end up in abusive relationships.

As for the parent and teenager fighting, the younger child may become introverted or even grow up with anger problems. They can't stop or control the fighting and may turn to something else that they can control. Like drugs, self harm or something in those lines.

Anyway, those are just my thoughts. If you are going through something like this. Try reaching out to an adult your trust and feel comfortable with. Just know that none of this is your fault.

Take care and never give up!

Answer 2

the child because he has to see it on his or her point of view and has to put up with no love and care and knowing that people that he or she loves are not getting along

Answer 3

Now, that you put the question out there I would say the child that's not in the argument. The two that are arguing they are getting something off their chest(letting steam out), but the one that has to listen to it all keeping it all bottled in till one day he get it off his chest in an unusual way. Then he would have to tell how long it been bottled up in him/her.

Answer 4

Observably both parties could get damaged as you say...who gets the most damage ..? only if one knew the people could I decide that to some extent ...it is possible that some may indeed have a better life knowing what can happen now they know how to avoid this situation ..