Who got married right out of college (my fiance is in the army)?

Question

I am engaged to someone who is in the army (he's in Texas right now and I'm in school in Michigan.) The plan was to get married next year in 2009. However, they gave him his deployment papers to leave in 2009 so we have been trying to be careful in "changing the plans." We were going back and forth on it, trying to decide whether to go ahead and get married right after school, because we felt that it didn't make any sense to wait a whole other year in a half just because he has to go to the war. His plan is to get married after I graduate, and go back with him in July. It sounds good the fact that when we first got engaged we never wanted a wedding. Just something small for a few fam and friends, but it's always a lot going on after graduation. My friend is telling me I should go ahead and do it. The fact that we love each other so much she doesn't see why we would wait to do something like that (not including the negative opinionated people in my family who just wants me there with them for the rest of my life.) The only reason why it is kind of complicated for me is because of him going to that war. If he wasn't going, I think I'd already be ready to pack up and be with my baby. Anyway I've been thinking about it and have started to agree very strongly on his idea. But I just wanted to know, how did it work out for you all? I know all marriages in this case turns out different, however, I'm very interested in knowing. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

I married my high school sweetheart (who was and still is in the Army) less than 6 months after I graduated HS.  The Army throws plans out the window all the time, trust me.  I stayed home in CO for a year after we were married so that I could go to school and use my full-ride scholarhsip but the distance just got to be too much for me.  Thats when I decided to pack up my stuff, and move to DC.  I gave my family and friends less then a weeks notice that I was moving and it was the best thing I ever did.  I have since, returned to school, I am working a great job and the best part is, I get to be with my wonderful husband (when hes not training or gone on a mission at least).

Dont think too hard about what yall are going to do and especially dot listen to all of your family and friends opinions.  Go with your heart and you cant go wrong.

I wish you the best of luck :)

Answer 2

I got married this summer I graduated college this summer. The only down side is that my wedding took over graduation. my college graduation was placed second on my proity list and on my families. I did not have a Grad party (i did not walk, but I also chose not to, so that's why I didn't have a party). when he is away you do not have to move to base right away you could get a small apartment and live in your home town until he gets back from the war, if he leaves really soon after you get married.

Answer 3

Since your in college I would recommend that you complete your degree first. I was 28 when I married my navy man. IF you want to have a small wedding with just family, then by all means plan something small. IF you want to go to texas (which is our next duty station) and plan something there that's fine to. It really does depend on what the two of you want. IF your family is like some that I've met and don't want their children to be happy then by all means don't invite them. I am an ordained minister, and I married a couple who had a similar situation to yours. I will tell you the same thing that I told them. Go with what makes you the happiest. You can't please everyone. It's just NOT going to happen.

good luck.