Who had an older mother ie 40 plus when they had you

Question

and how did it affect you please????

Answer 1

my mom was 42 when i was born, my dad 45.  i feel i had it better than my brother and sister (18 and 20 respectively) when they were younger because my mom could stay at home with me and my dad had a good paying job in the coal mines.  Plus I learned old fashioned values and how to do things in the kitchen, etc.

I don't know how that compares to someone who has young parents, but I feel that a parent of the age mine were are more mature, established, and experienced

Answer 2

my mother had my brother when she was 41, it didn"t affect me at all.

im now nearly 40, and my brothers 20...

i think it"s cool to have a much younger brother, he always come"s to me for advice..and we get on like a house on fire...lol

Answer 3

MY MOM HAD MY SISTER AT 40 AND THEY WERE LIKE BEST FRIENDS

Answer 4

not me

Answer 5

my mom had me when she was 37 but my younger brother was born when she was 41 and he gets a lot of attention(he is the youngest) but there really is no difference...but with me I don't have a very strong relationship with my mom anyway(better with my dad)

Answer 6

My boyfriends mum had him in her late thirties and my mum had me in her early twenties and we can see a huge difference in parenting.  

I think with my parents they still want to, you know, be together without kids.  They still enjoy each others company, whereas my boyfriend is the youngest child and they are both in their sixties and he is everything to them, they really cannot function without him.

I teach children though, and the ones with older parents tend to be very bright, very confident and they are always the top of the class.  So there are good points as well as bad.

Answer 7

Not me. My mom had me when she was 23. Now she's 41.

Answer 8

My grandmother was 40 when she had my dad. She is now 91 years old. The only problem I see with it is for the people that don't live into their eighties or nineties, their child gets cheated out of time with them that they would have had if they would have been born earlier.

Answer 9

I had my first child when I was 43.  She is now 8 years old.  We have a cracking relationship and I see little difference between how we get on and her classmates and their mums.  I do wonder how it will be when she is a teenager but the way I see it, I will have even more motherly wisdom to pass on and a greater sense of perspective in life than younger mothers. It has been hard for me though.  At 42 (now 51) I saw myself as a childless woman and then was suddenly catapulted into motherhood.  The pregnancy was unplanned and quite a miracle really.  A wonderful gift but it took me a few years to adjust.  I had to put my career on hold and there was the whole loss of my old child free life.

She's playing on the PS2 with her daddy (53)right now. Seems happy!

Answer 10

my mummy waz 25 when she had my brother and 28 when she had my sis and 29 when she had me!! i was the baby so i got everything i wanted now im not the baby my mummy had my little sis when she was 34.

Answer 11

I did.  My father too.  It was hard.  She was very strict, very protective - - overly so.  It was tough socially too.  It was assumed she was my grandmother.  I hated that.  When you’re a kid you don’t want that kind of attention.  She didn’t play with us in the yard much, although we went outside a lot.  We didn't want for anything.  The only setback was she was slowing down 20 years ahead of everyone else.  

She is a great mom though.  She didn't love me less, or different, because of her age.  It was very difficult growing up with the constant supervision and strict discipline, but I really can't attribute that to an age difference.  That's just a quality she has.  I had a great childhood.

It affects my brother more though, he has down syndrome.

She has chilled out considerably over time.  My kids think SHE'S cool and I'M strict.  Karma huh?

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I'm getting downthumbed for my great childhood.  Alrighty then.

Answer 12

My Mum was 45 when I was born and my Dad was 44.  They already had 4 other children aged 20, 19, 17 & 11. I was a bit of a shock to say the least!  I never felt like I missed out on anything.  My Mum had more time to spend with me as the rest were almost grown up and my Dad had just got a good job that didn't involve lots of travel (he was working away for a year at a time when my siblings were little).  I had a settled childhood and if there were certain things that my parents didn't want to do e.g. take me to a theme park etc; I had plenty of older brothers & sisters that would!  

Answer 13

I was quite the surprise my Mother said .My brothers were 19, 20 and 22, my sister 15 years old when I was born.

So it was like I was an only child that had these adoring slaves all around. I remember going on dates with one of my brothers. They all treated me like a new present and I was greatly loved. When I was 9 or 10 an adult told me I was an accident and laughed about it. I was so upset and hurt. Later when I got home my mother told me that yes, I was very unexpected and that she cried and cried thinking of starting over. (My mother was very ill, she'd had tubeculosis years earlier.) The doctor told her that I would be the best thing that ever happened to her. And she said I was. My parents were older and settled. They had time and patience born of experience. I had an amazing childhood.

I was born in 1956 so things were different then. Due to my mothers illness I lost her long before I was grown but that wasn't due to her age. Kids today won't have that issue. People live longer lives and things like polio and TB are not a problem.

I had my kids when I was young and can't imagine doing it now but had I not raised a family, I think having a baby at 40 is a viable choice now. Parents can give kids more usually as they have acheived things they were working towards in thier 20's and 30's. They have more time and hopefully more patience for babies than before. I think pregnancy has to be harder on a womens body at that age. The risk for birth defects is greater but maybe so are the rewards.

I know I am glad my parents chose to have me when they did. I have no regrets about my child hood. I was a happy well loved child.