Who has 4 or more children? How many do you have? Or want to have?

Question

We currently have 5, going on baby # 6 ~ as of right now we don't have a number of when we are going to stop. I'd like it to be 6 or 8 (even #) My problem is that we are always underfire from family members (who have no bussines worring about the number of children we have) We haven't even told people about #6 because we don't want to hear the negitive comments ~ that will just start a family riot, because I'm out spoken & let people know that as long as they don't have to care for or pay for my kids they should keep their unwanted opinions to themselves. Some family members just think that it's "unnatural to want that many kids" ~ me on the other hand think that it's unnatural not NEVER want ANY. but hey, you do what you want & I'll do the same

Answer 1

My cousin and my dad both have 3 siblings, my mom had five siblings. I have a great grandmother who was one of 21 children. I say if you can take care of the kids, and you're willing to go through labor that many times, go for it.

I don't think it's unnatural to have a lot of kids, but I don't think that it's unnatural not to want kids either. I think that it's better to know that you don't want kids and not have them than to not want kids but have them anyway, that will just make for a miserable parent and some miserable kids.

I know for certain that I want kids, though I don't know how many. On the one hand, it might be nice to have two kids, like my parents. Plenty of space, and I can afford to give them more. On the other hand, I always loved having lot's of aunt's and uncles, and a huge family, so maybe I'll have more.

Answer 2

I don't have any kids and I don't want any, ever.

Answer 3

i want 3 kids but i think ppl should how many kids they want unless they cant care for them but some ppl have 10 kids i say if u want 8 then have it who cares wut anyone says

Answer 4

I think it's wonderful that you have such a big family! I agree it's unnatural to want none.

I have four children and get a lot of comments, too. I smile and say, "Hey, I'll have plenty of people to wipe the drool off my chin when I'm 100!"

I love my little blessings!

Answer 5

To each his/her own. Personally we only have one daughter and that works for us. If anything, we are outnumbered by our family on both sides. Most of my family has at least 5 kids, so does my hubby's. Everyone does what works for them. Sorry you have to put up with so much from people, that's not fair. They should spend their time worrying about their own families, you guys know what's best for you, non one else!

Best of luck and congrats on baby #6!

Answer 6

We have 4 boys and 1 girl ranging from 10 to 22 years old.... I'm 40 and would have another baby tomorrow if I could! If you're raising your kids right, you should have as many as you want! The people who don't give a c**p have no problem having 9 kids.

Answer 7

i want at least three, but i'm up to however many....i'd be fine with six..

kids are amazing little blessings  (i guess your family is missing that memo)

Answer 8

I love children dearly. And I grew up in a large family and hope to have one of my own. I guess I'll take what ever God gives me. It's annoying when people make fun of large families, but people make fun of everything! I'm sure people with only one child always get comments like "They need a sibling" People really need to mind their own business.

Like I said, I'll take what ever God gives me, but I would never really want 1 kid (they need siblings!) or 3 kids (there is only 1 middle child).

Congrats on #6!! Do you have a name picked out yet? God bless you.

Answer 9

I have 3 boys (10,6,4) and want to have one more, I also get a lot of negative comments your only 30 and have 3 kids wow!

I look younger so people think I'm around 25 I guess or even younger which is good for me.   I agree people should keep the unwanted opinions to the self.  Have as many kids that is right for you and your husband as long as you can take care of them it's no one else business. Good Luck!!

Answer 10

I have 4 boys....and I stopped there. I wish I had a girl but...guess wasn't in God's plan to give me one....(I'll just wait for the grandchildren, LOL) ....Anyway...there is a saying that I really love and most of the people don't like but I find it is totally truth:" IF YOU CAN'T FEED THEM DON'T BREED THEM" , so if you are able to give each of your children all what they need without the assistance of Welfare or any other government help....I say.. God Bless You, and do whatever you want and have as many children as you want.

Answer 11

I wanted 6, ended up with 9.

In January, I did have 6. Then my hubby found out he had a stepdaughter, and her mom has cancer, so we took her in. And then I accidentally got pregnant with twins, had them at 23 weeks, and now they are 10 days old. We are definitely done. I can't handle anymore. These twins are my second set of twins, too. I have my work cut out for me.

Anyway, I am afraid to put "mom of 9" or whatever for my name on here because I'm afraid of the criticism. I know how you feel. I always get the nasty looks and comments in the grocery store. In the restaurants, or even at the park. I am *slowly* coming out of my shell and trying not to care what other people think, but that is just how I am.

So, I totally know how you feel. But your family is going to find out soon or later. (I mean, you know, the belly!!) And the later you tell them, they will probably also question why you didn't tell them earlier.

And I think it's unnatural, too, to not want kids. I couldn't imagine life without my kids. I just couldn't.

Anyway, props to you on the big family!! =D I respect and sympathize for anyone who has 4 kids or more. I know how they feel.

Good Luck and God bless that lil' bun in the oven!! =)

~Kate, mama of 9 =]

EDIT: Oh, and just to say...my hubby is a doctor, and makes quite a lot, and we can financially support these kids. (Wanted to say that after reading the first answer!!) =]

Answer 12

its great to see big families, i have 3 and would love more but at the moment we cant afford to have any more so we'll have to wait and see if finances improve in a few years.ignore your familes comments as long as you and your kids are happy and healthy have as many as you like best of luck on number 6

Answer 13

None at all. I like my freedom to much.

Answer 14

I have 4 kids, three boys and a girl. We were originally going to stop at 3 kids but both wanted to try for a girl ;) and we got her. After she was born, we agreed that we were DONE but now my husband has been dropping hints and comments about wanting #5....eh...they already out number us by 2 and that would require us to get a new kitchen table, a truck etc to fit everyone, but who knows?

I personally love having 4 kids. I get comments ALL THE TIME from my friends like, "4? Do you have any time for yourself?" and "That's way too many! I could never handle that!" My answer is if you don't think you can handle it, then don't have that many! And parenthood is really what YOU make of it...you can either be a slave to your children or enjoy them and yourself.

Best Wishes =]