Who is correct in your opinion?

Question

Me/She?she=my friend

I am given the garage(converted into room) to live, by my own family.

I am supposed to take my younger brother's puppy out for a walk. Also, I go to a public school, but he does'nt.

family-step dad, step mom, step brother (younger)

I say, that the garage was the only room left, unalloted, so I was given that to live. Also, I am in 10th standard, but I think I can spend 15 minuted with that puppy.

She says, this is discrimination. I am given the garage because I am their step child and if it is my younger brother's(who is in 6th standard) dog, he is supposed to take him out. I need to study more.

And I do not have any reason why I go to a public school and he doesn't. I think because he is kinda clever.

In your opinion, who is correct and why?

Answer 1

i would be happy just having my own room :)

Answer 2

Well, it's hard to say without more facts. You say your family is your step mum, step dad and step brother. I don't really understand that. How are both your parents step parents? Also, you said the room was the only unallotted one. Does this mean you've only recently come to live with them? If so, then if they had this room spare, and it's a nice enough room and comfortable then I don't see why that's wrong. If you've lived there for a while and have been turfed out of your own room and made to live in one that's not as nice for no good reason then no, that isn't fair.

Again, with the school, if you've only come to live with them recently then they probably thought it was in your best interests to remain at your usual, public school. Plus, if neither is your biological parent then do you still have contact with a biological parent who wishes you to stay at public school? That could be why they haven't moved you. But, if they have full parental responsibility over you, you've lived there a while and they put their son in private school after you came to live with them then I think they should have at least talked with you about whether or not you were happy to stay at public school.

About the dog, again, there are different reasons why they could be asking you to take your brother's dog for a walk. They may want you to get a bit of exercise. Do you play any sports? If not they might think it's good for you to do something active every day. Or do you spend a lot of time in your room? They might worry that you're not getting enough fresh air, and so asked you to walk the dog to ensure you get some.

If you don't have a problem with the things they've done, and if you are happy to live with them and they are kind to you then I would say everything sounds okay. If however they do make you do things that they don't ask 'their' son purely because you are their step daughter then that doesn't sound fair.

Answer 3

You. It's your life I think you should know why you were given the room you were given and why you have to help out with the dog. It sounds like she is just trying to cause problems for you. To be honest, having your room being a converted garage is quite cool. It must be massive.

What do you mean family-step dad?

Answer 4

You in the end as long as you are happy with the living arrangements you are correct. A sixth grader isn't exactly the prime candidate to take care of a puppy. Responsibilities like that do come with age and maturity. It takes fifteen minutes out of your day and that is not going to affect your studies. As long as the garage is comfortable I'd go for it. It gives you alot more space and free will to be a little bit more independent. If it doesn't bother you than don't worry about what your friend thinks. If it does talk to the fam. As far as what the right answer is...you have to remember it's your life not hers. It doesn't sound like it inconveniences you or hinders any abilities to study. At the same time your friend cares about you and is offering support out of her ability to want the best for you, her friend. All in all sounds like you have a good friend. She just might think differently as to what is best for you and in the end she will get over her opinion.

The garage would be fun to pimp out. I hope you have carpet and accurate heating/cooling in there!

Answer 5

I think, just walk the darn dog, and realize that you have a roof over your head. Clearly your parents don't have a big enough home, and have made room for all of you. Schools, well so what why do you need to place it as who is favorites. Just walk the d**n dog.

Answer 6

idk!

Answer 7

hey, just accept things the way they are

you have shelter, food, and education

walking the dog gives you exercise anyways

try to make the best out of it

Answer 8

Confused, how can you have a step dad and step mom in the same house??  

No matter what, as long as you are happy in the garage, it doesn't make it any less of a good space than an actual "bedroom".  If anything, it's probably a little bigger than your brother's room anyway.

The puppy thing, just enjoy it.  The puppy will like you better in the end because you do more for it than your brother!!

Public school is way better than private anyway, you have more choices of just about everything (clothes, classes, sports, clubs, BOYS)!!

Tell your friend to let you worry about your homelife and she can worry about hers.

If you are truly bothered by this, than sit down and talk with the biological parent and let them know that you feel slighted and why.