Who is right, me or my dad??

Question

okay so my dad used to live in chicago

hes around 50 now and his dental school is having a reunion

we live in california

and i REALLY want to go

he doesnt want to take me!

he says that ill be bored, wont know anyone, and it costs too much money

and i said, well you have already taken kevin (my brother) out of state with out me, we need to bond, and i WILL have fun

but who do you thing is right???

Answer 1

Is he maybe nervous that you may complain ( you seem mature enough not to though!) about you being there and he is probably nervous about impressing his former classmates. Talk to him about why he doesnt want to take you. If it IS the ticket price, they are more pricier these days, then maybe you can babysit, do chores,etc to help save money and you could get a plane ticket. Talk to your dad about it and see if you can come to an agreement. Good luck!

Answer 2

Well I can't say you are completely right because I don't know all his reasons. Maybe money is tight and he can't afford another ticket. But if you really want to go and spend time with him then he should make the effort to take you. As long as you behave and don't tell him you are ready to go then I would take you.  Don't make a fight out of it just really let him know how you want to spend time with him.  He will probably give in. But don't bring up that he already took your brother because then it just seems like you are being like well he went so now I want to go too.

Answer 3

ithink you both have made good points. you will most likely be bored since you will not know anyone there. but, you did make a good point about your brother.i don't know the full story really, though, so you guys will have to compromise. good luck!

Answer 4

sorry, but i think he's right. come on. its going to be a dental school reunion filled with 50 year old men like your dad. not that you dad is bad or anything, but do you really wanna be in a room with 50 year old dentists? and besides, he might not really wanna "bond" with you at his dental school reunion. he might want to go hang out with his old friends, and not have to worry about you wandering around a room being bored/ and or molested by some creepy dentist (lol jk). and maybe he is really worried about the money factor. i think you should lay off a little bit, and when he comes back, plan a fun weekend that you can have together, so you can bond. that way he gets what he wants, you part of what you want (sorry =]) and you both have fun.

Answer 5

I can see your point.

But what exactly are you gonna do at a high school reunion?

I mean maybe your dad wants to hang out with old classmates and your just gonna be there bored, considering that you won't know what to do in Chicago and know no one there.

Try convincing your dad to take you out of state for like your next vacation, but not now to is high school reunion.

Answer 6

i think that you are right because he has already taken your brother out of state...but then you also got to think of money.

Answer 7

I don't know, but  I think you have a good point about your brother. Maybe you two could compromise, like you can't complain when you are bored, or you have to bring you own money to go do stuff.

Answer 8

Your dad doesn't want to be blunt, but he simply doesn't want to take you.

The money may come into it--hundreds of dollars, for you to go to HIS event with HIS friends. It is not your place. Anymore than it's his place to go on YOUR sleepovers ot to the mall with YOU and your friends. Butt out. It's his time.

Give up the "we need to bond" baloney. He sees right thru that, which may be part of the reason he doesn't want you to go. You can bond in your living room. Stop the manipulation attempts. It's only hurting your chances even more.

No is no. No explanation needed.

Answer 9

that sux, for one thing about getting free tickets, that's usually only if they have extra seats so there might only be 1 seat avalible(my uncle is a pilot), and i think you are kind of right but he might be right about you  having nothing to do, and he might not be allowed to bring you to the reunion and won't want to stay in the hotel by yourself or whatever.  and its true you problably won't know anybody, and it could cost a lot even if he spends a lot on other stuff.  

I think you should just maturaly talk to your father and state your permission in a mature manner.  something else that might help is offering to chip money for what it will cost extra if he brings you if you have or can get money by like a job or something.  

hope this helps:)

Answer 10

In this case I think he is correct.

But he should plan something for you also.

Answer 11

your dad is right what are u gonna do there, he's there for his reunion, that won't be no fun for u, u would probably just wind up sitting in the hotel room bored and it probably would be more expensive...if u really want to spend time with him ask if yous can plan a trip together for another time.

Answer 12

welll u botth are....just tell your dad that u really care....he'll understand....good luck :D

Answer 13

If he is just going for a reunion, why would you want to go? He will probably not be doing anything else.  Chicago is expensive.  You should compromise with him, ask him to take you somewhere, just the two of you.  Don't feel the need to be taken somewhere expensive tho.

Answer 14

Theres not really a right or vvrong. I'm sure it might be boring but if you are vvilling and vvanting to go then I dont see vvhy thats a problem. Just tell your dad you vvant to support him and vvould really like to go.

Answer 15

Your Dad!!!, First you don't mention your age, but I am assuming you are a young teen. You already stated you don't know anyone, so what do you propose to do while he is attending his reunion? You cannot be left alone in a strange, large City. Why wouldn't you ask to go somewhere enjoyable for a few days when he has time off from work. It is apparent you need time with him, but this is not the time. Why not sit down with him, request a few days of his time, discuss somewhere to go/something to do. Wanting to go just because your brother did is a bit childish.