Who is right? hubby or I?

Question

. i dont know why God put us together but he dure did . we both are huge shoppers . hubby is into expensive brand name clothes and i am into whatever makes me look great . six months ago i started working form home so my shopping has gone down a lot since i am in the house almost all day but what i realise hubby s shopping has become more serious to the point that now whenever i asked him when did you get that shirt ? his answer is . come on now dont you know this shirt . i said no and he goes . you must not being paying attention then cause i ve always has this shirt . and i let go . i mean the bills are still paid in the house and our savings are still there so i wonder where was he getting the money from . little that i know me not shopping has made my hubby think yeah we now got more money and he has gotten a promotion at work too . we agreed on going to visit our family in France this winter ( february)i told him that even if we are having more income coming in it doesnt mean we should spend it like that he got mad at me and started saying because i am not spending money like i used that is why i am acting like this , and when i reminded him of our vacation he said he isnt stupid to touch our vacation funds . who is overreacting ?

Answer 1

Sounds liek to me both of you have a little problem. For one youa re trying to do teh right thing but pushing it and he's acting liek a spoiled child when they said he can't ahve a toy. You and him need to sit down and have a nice long talk.  

Answer 2

Honestly the both of you are in a relationship. It doesn't matther who is right or wrong, you both are aloud your opinions, what the two of you should do is let eachother speak your minds and then find a compromise (meet in the middle)

Answer 3

You are right. I shop designer clothes too but there is a limit to how much you should buy and where to best put your money. Perhaps your vacation money remains untouched, but there are other ways to use the money. Just for example, you could use it to purchase a new car, refurnish your home, invest, etc. You should like you know how to spend your money though so I'm just saying in general there are better things to do with money than to spend on too much clothing.  

Answer 4

It sounds like you're jealous that he's still buying clothes and you're not.  Both of you should cut it out and put all xtra $$$$ in the vacation fund....fair is fair!

Answer 5

Yup, you are right.  He does not need to spend his well earned money every day.  He should be getting you something cause you are at home all day.

Answer 6

you are exactly right! i am soing through the SAME thing with mine. a few differences though, i am not a shopper, and he doesnt keep the bills paid, and even though he makes 10 grand a month, my son and i STILL dont have insurance. yeah, i am soooo close to being over him!

and men say women are the shoppers, yeah, right!

Answer 7

You are over reacting.  Kind of like a smoker that quits and complains about another smokers smoke.

Answer 8

Hubby needs to put on the brakes with regard to his spending.  It's not about how much you make, it's about how much you keep.  If you guys are making more, it means you can save more.  I've never heard anyone say they have saved too much.

Answer 9

u may spent your vacation fund - the weather in february in france is very crappy anyway. may as well stay at home and go shopping. at least u will get some enjoyment

Answer 10

I think there is no set plan for this vacation.  If the bills are paid and savings is still going strong then he obviously isn't spending that much money.  However, instead of dictating ask him what he can do or what you both can do to ensure that your trip is perfect.  What kinds of things can we sacrifice now.  Presenting things in a question and not a dictator will go a very long way.

Answer 11

you are right