Who is to blame for this relationship not working out ?

Question

My friend recently broke up with a guy, who's also a friend of mine, she had been seeing and I'm trying to help her get an understanding as to why it didn't work out. She said that he was smothering her and trying to rush things. At the same time, she wasn't exactly being honest with him either. She lost interest in seeing him a few months ago but she kept talking to him and seeing him. It wasn't until he confronted her after she started making up excuses to not see him and at that point things got nasty between them. So who is to blame for this relationship not working out ?

Answer 1

No one is to blame-the relationship didn't work.  There is no need to point a finger at the other person.

Answer 2

both of them.

Answer 3

Both.................neither

Sometimes you have two great people, and it's nobody's "fault".......it's just a bad connection.

How you described it, she wasn't honest, but trust me, there is plenty of blame to lay on both sides

Luck

Answer 4

If it wasnt meant to be..than its over. You dont need to seek out blame on anyone if thats the case. Maybe no one or both are at fault by why lay a guilt trip on one of your friends?

Answer 5

She probably thought he was smothering her because she wanted to go out and meet other guys but kept him on the side in case she didn't find anyone else that wanted her.  

It was her fault for not just breaking up with him a few months ago when it was over for her.

He was right in confronting her .  She didn't need to give him excuses just an honest answer which was she just wasn't into him anymore and wanted to end it.   Her fault 100%.

Answer 6

Usually I am 100% on the girl's side because I totally believe in "Girl Power", but in this case I think it was the girl's fault. She lost interest in him yet she continued the relationship.

What is the point of continuing on seeing someone if you do not like them and are not interested in them? She needs to learn not to lead men on like that. Leading someone on can get you stalked and even killed, it's serious and ridiculous.

Help your friend to be safe and make good decisions for herself.

God Bless and Cheers

Answer 7

Blame is childish behavior .

Answer 8

she is, she should have been honest and she shouldn't had led him to believe she wanted to be with him. if she had to make up things to get out of seeing him she is the problem not him! should've just been honest!!!!

Answer 9

''it takes 2 to tango''

both are to blame in their own ways.

Answer 10

Both.  They are too immature to have been in a relationship in the first place.

Marco!

Answer 11

it is always the guy's fault.

Answer 12

it takes 2 to work in a relationship as well as break a relationship hope i helped .. can u help me with mine plz  

Answer 13

somewhat both , but hers - she kept leading him on when she clearly knew and felt it was over

Answer 14

She is, she just should have told him several months ago when she lost interest that "it isn't him its her" instead of stringing him along.  That plays with peoples minds, and hearts not to mention that the longer that you prolong things like this there are so many more feelings involved and when you try to make sense out of everything for both parties the only thing you can do is to tear each other down to justify why you don't wont to be with them any longer and that hurts worst.

Answer 15

sounds like he's to blame, she needed space, and it seems like he didn't want to give it to her and on top of that when someone says they need space you don't try to go faster with the relationship you try and take it slow and back off a little so the person can breath and figure out what they want. some ppl just like casual slow relationships and like there space and time to thereselves,some ppl don't like to be smothered, and maybe that's what freaked her out, maybe she saw that he was going to be too attached and she was like turned off by that, guys are not suppose to be needy, there suppose to be independent, and make the girl want them to be close, not all i can't survive without you not up my a** 24/7, that's a big turn off, so i don't blame her for wanting out. but she shouldn't have lied either, but I see it like maybe she had to, because he was so overbearing, and she had no choice but to lie to have some piece of mind.