Who pays for wedding shower favors?

Question

I'm standing up in my brother in law's wedding, and will be attending 2 showers (the groom's side wasn't invited to the original shower, so we have to throw a separate one the following week). The bride's aunt is hosting the shower & has asked for no input from the bridesmaids. I was just told (one week before the shower) that it's the bridesmaids' responsibility to pay for the shower favors, which have been chosen by the bride's mother.

Has anyone heard of this? I thought that traditionally whomever hosts the shower provides the favors, and since we're not hosting or co-hosting, it seemed like an odd "requirement". Not a big deal, but this is just the lastest in a long string of rude manners from this family.

Thanks!!!

Answer 1

bridal shower favors are part of the overall cost of the shower itself and should be included along with decorations, food, invitations, etc......the bride's aunt is hostess and has ASKED FOR NO INPUT...that means suggestions AND donations for the cost of the shower, therefore the hostess pays for the favors....so whoever told you that is dead in the water...it would be your responsibility IF you were hosting the shower...you aren't...sounds like something has decided last minute that the favors are too much money for them and is looking for some one to shove them off on..besides one week's notice? uh-uh.....sounds like they have 'em already and are looking for a money offset..under the circumstances you are not obligated.....I would not pay...tell them it's too short notice & the hostess of the party pays for the favors..you are not the hostess....they took it out of your hands and relieved you of this particular duty when the aunt took over...good luck.

Answer 2

If you aren't hosting the shower, you shouldn't have to pay for anything.  That doesn't make any sense.

Answer 3

Never heard of this. The person hosting the shower should be paying for favors.

Answer 4

bride's family

Answer 5

The hostess of the party should be the one paying, but as you noted "this is just the latest in a long string of rude manners from this family".

I say so long as the cost isn't insane, suck it up and pay for it - - then let the bride know about it later.

Answer 6

Did you and the bridesmaids host or help pay for the first shower? If so, I wouldmt pay a dime for the second shower, it's the hostesses' job to pay for everything.

If you didn't pay anything toward the first shower, then maybe you should help out with the 2nd shower, since typically the bridesmaids do throw a shower.

Answer 7

Except extra stuff that bridesmaids want to add to the shower or wedding.. (ie specific decorations, gifts, etc) ... EVERYTHING is paid for by either bride or groom's family

Answer 8

Sounds like one of those awful wedding situations where brides end up crying and family grudges get started.  I think that the people giving the shower should provide the favors, however, since these people are obviosly unreasonable and insensitive I think you are going to have to just pay for them and let it go.

It doesn't seem worth making a fuzz about.  Think of it as your gift towards harmony for the bride and groom.