Who should be at the hostpital not in the delivery room) while im in labor?

Question

I want to wait until ive had him and were settled to call anyone beside my husband and sisiter who will be in the room.WillI offend people if I call them after the baby is born to come to hostpital . I have to stay 48 hours after anyways.

Answer 1

Nobody will be offended. Giving birth should be totally private, with only your close friends or relatives with you. Visitors are nice to have but not when your stressed as h**l.

What you can actually do is not tell people (other than those close to you) that you're in labour. Just ask your hubby to call them right after the baby has been born. So you'll have visitors atleast a couple of hours after the baby has been born.

If they get offended about not calling them before, just say - Oh it happened so quick, we didn't have time to call you before. It was all so fast.

Answer 2

My mom and his mom and dad were at the hospital when the baby was being born, but they didn't go get them until I asked them to.  I had a c-section, so it's a little different, but they won't force you to have visitors no matter what.

I would say to let your family come, but not to tell them that the baby is born until a little later.  I think that your friends can wait, but that your family would be quite upset if they found out the baby was born and they didn't know it.

They have no way of knowing how long your labor was, for all they know you had a longer labor.

Answer 3

just call the people that are really important to you like your parents,relatives, best friends, husband of course. just make it clear you dont want everyone in the room but you still want them to be there when the baby is born, or give that job to ur husband to let them know, after all, you will be going thru enough lol

Answer 4

Well, I wouldn't worry about who you are offending. It is your and your husband's decisions. You do what makes you comfortable and if people don't understand that , then too bad for them. Some people like everyone there and some people like it to be a private time. I am one of those that like the privacy. I enjoy the time just my husband and I alone with our baby b4 everyone else is there, wanting to see the baby, hold the baby, asking a million questions,  etc. I think most people will understand that :)  Best of luck!!!

Answer 5

My father in law showed up univited at the hospital when my oldest was born.  He was quickly banished to the waiting room.  It was a pain for my husband to be making a bunch of phone calls when I was in labor anyway.  My mom showed up and she stressed me out when I was giving birth.

During my second daughter's birth, we didn't call anyone we didn't want to be at the actual birth until the baby was born.  It was much nicer because my mom wasn't there to stress me out.  She didn't seem offended that she wasn't there.  I think she was just relieved that she was born okay.

Answer 6

People shouldn't get offended, it is best to limit who is there as it is stressful enough and anyone who has had a baby should be willing to respect that.  We don't call anyone else until the baby is born and it has worked out just fine.  

Answer 7

no thats fine becasue you dont know how long your labour will be anyway so they should wait until your comfortable to call everyone!

Answer 8

No one aside form the medical staff can be in the room without your permission. You can have the nurses put a sign on your door stating "NO VISITORS". Childbirth is s stressful event and your have the right to privacy,

Answer 9

You can do it however you want to. My mother and brother waited outside the room while I delivered and I just had my husband with me in the room. I called my friends later on. ( I delivered at 1am)  So it's up to you really. Not all women want all kinds of ppl in the room with them so soon after they deliver. So many things are going on you might just want to get some rest or wait till the next day. I didn't mind either way. So it's really your call I'm sure family and friends will understand.

Answer 10

they should respect your wishes as someone you is giving birth and for the health of the baby. animals do the same thing- they go off somewhere to have their babies- around no one- its just instinct. do what feels right for you. heck, ur the one giving birth!

Answer 11

i don't think it will offend anyone. when i gave birth, only my husband was with me. my parents and sister came a few hours after i had delivered. i didn't want a crowd...i just wanted it to be the 2 of us to welcome our little one into the world.