Who should be blamed, baby died in my GF's womb 7 months pregnant. Doc says she couldn't find any reason?

Question

It was surprise for both of us when the doctor said she couldn't give a reason as to why the baby died in the womb. My gf was carrying 7th month. Can anyone give an answer as to why this happens, her sister is 18 and has a cardiac problem. Is this hereditary ?

Appreciate your help and thanks in advance.

Answer 1

That is so sad and I send out my prayers to you both. If your doctor can't answer most likely no one will be able.  I am sure if you really wanted to know, you could have an autopsy done.

Answer 2

Thats so sad, and especially frustrating to not know why. But if the doctor couldn't say why, probably no one here can. Maybe just some rare thing that mad e the baby not able to survive. sorry...

Answer 3

You really can't blame anyone...I know sometimes it's easier to deal with when you place blame and fault on someone...but sometimes thing like this just happen and it's hard to explain why an unborn child dies...I'm sorry for your loss

Answer 4

Please don't ask, "Who should be blamed?".  Ask "What are some of the possible reasons for this?"  I know that you are mourning and how tragic the situation is, but don't allow yourself to turn vindictive.

Did they find any knot in the cord?  Was an autopsy done?  You could consult with a pathologist and ask their opinion.  Unfortunately some fetuses can die right up until delivery.  It's so awful for parents, especially when the answers aren't there.

Good luck recovering from your loss.

Answer 5

I don't have an answer for you but I just wanted to say I'm sorry for your loss...=(

Answer 6

Sometimes there really isn't any one thing to blame. My mother-in-law went through the same thing, except she was almost full term. Sometimes things just don't develop correctly and the baby passes away. If it helps though, my mother-in-law did go on to have two very healthy children.

Answer 7

Nobody is to blame. Not you, not your girlfriend, and not the doctor. Unfortunately these things sometimes happen and as much as you want a reason there may not be one. Just be supportive for your girlfriend.  

Answer 8

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.  Even though you want to find someone to blame there is nothing to blame.  Nothing you did, your gf did or the doctor did could have prevented such a horrible thing.  When they deliver the baby they will perform and autopsy, it could have been an abnormal placenta or umbillical cord.  I suggest you check out the website i have below.  There are plenty of stories and people dealing with the same problems and maybe you can find some comfort in there words on how they have or are coping.  You all are in my thoughts and prayers.

Answer 9

Of course we always want to blame "someone" but sometimes things just happen and there is no explanation and no one to blame.  I think placing blame makes us feel better.  I'm sorry for you loss

Answer 10

I am so sorry- that is probably the worst thing that will ever happen to you.

I'm sure you don't really mean you want to blame her side of the family or anything for a medical problem.  Sometimes babies just die, and they aren't sure why it happens.  It probably has nothing to do with her sister's problem- but an autopsy would show that if you had one.

Most people with a loss go on to have healthy children.  I hope you do as well.

Hugs to you both, and your families.

Answer 11

No one should be blamed. The baby should be mourned.

These things happen. Its horrible and tragic, but it happens.

Answer 12

I'm very sorry to hear that, but most likely there's nobody to blame. Bad things unfortunately happen. It's not your girlfriend's fault, not yours, not any of your relatives', nor the doctor's. Unless, of course, there was some wrongdoing, such as physical trauma, drugs, or a faulty medical procedure. But I'm guessing that wasn't the case, right?

Again, I'm sorry.