Who should pay on the first date?

Question

Should it always be the man or should the person who issued the invitation pay? Or should the bill be spilt?

Answer 1

I think the guy should pay.  If you asked him out then pay for something but accept it if he wants to buy.

Answer 2

the person who asked out the other person, always.

Answer 3

Well it all depends, if the girl has issued the date she should at least try to pay, if the boy issues the date then he should pay, if you both want to have a date at the same time the boy should still pay. the only time you split the bill is if the guy has no money but only a few dollars or if the girl has no money except for a few dollars.

Answer 4

Don't be scared about who will pay, you can, or he can, either way, at least split it, my best advise.

Answer 5

The guy should always pay on the first date to make a good impression

Answer 6

First date - whoever asked.  After that - split.  I guess I'm just a bit liberated with this.  I don't expect anyone to pay for my dinner, unless they've asked me out.

Answer 7

Whoever issued the invitation.

Answer 8

The man but if only friends then split the bill..

Answer 9

Paying always seems awkward.  So, to ease that moment just give your credit card to the wait-staff prior to arriving to dinner.  Authorize them to add the tip before handing you a recipt to sign toward the end of dinner.  

Now you may simply focus on each other with minimal distractions dealing with payment.

After all...the first date is nerve-racking enough.  Have a nice date!

Answer 10

depends how the dinner went, if the possibilties look good for the near future, by all means the man should pay!

Answer 11

the man should pay

Answer 12

Well, a man should always offer to pay on the first date but if a woman did the asking then i say be prepared if he doesnt offer but again... that only lets you know that he isnt a gentleman..

Answer 13

call it even,each person should pay for their own meal unless the gentleman insists

Answer 14

If you are a real man you will pay always. I am and I do.

There are certain rules in society. Be a man!

Answer 15

if it*s a date  the man should always pay !

Answer 16

I think the guy should pay but if you wanna spit the check you can. But it is up to you.

Answer 17

The person who issued the invitation should pay or you can split it.

It's rather hypocritical for a woman who considers herself modern and independent to outright expect the guy to pay. You cannot be modern AND traditional at the same time. The guys are beginning to see this behaviour as cheapskate-ish.

Answer 18

To be in manner, the man should pay becuase it will impress his date, and show how much manner he has into women. Sometimes, the women would pay because if it was worth a good date and she feels confident to have another date with him

Answer 19

it depends on your date!!

if you two are young, splitting is better.

if you're over 30, perhaps the man should pay

Answer 20

only if u ask him out. if he asks u out he should pay. or whoever grabs the bill first, so don't pick it up let the man pay!

~christina~

Answer 21

Dutch, first and every date. Everyone should pay their own way. Women keep saying they want to be equal so then they need to pay their own way.  Why should a man pay if the woman is his equal?

Answer 22

the guy should pay, if he wants another date

Answer 23

The man of course!!!!!

Answer 24

I wouldn't say I'm old fashioned but I do usually let the guy do the buying. But I would also say the one doing the asking is a safe bet. Usually the other person will step up and at least offer to split the check, cover the tip, or pay the whole thing. And then it's up to you to decide to accept.

Answer 25

I think it's whoever asked if it's a first date. after that, let the guy pay- but as George on Seinfeld says, "make the reach"

if u no wut i mean

Answer 26

I would think it would be the man if he made the invitation to you. Or mostly just split the bill.

Answer 27

I would say the man, that's called being a gentleman.

Answer 28

if the guy asked you out he should pay. if you asked the guy out you should pay. if you feel that he is more like a friend then split the bill.

Answer 29

depends on who asked the other out..if she would ask a man out don't you thing she should pay..and visa-versa..traditionaly a man would ask and then pay, but in today's world it's a toss-up..I always pay at first and things are goin' good with dates after that, then a woman should at least offer once in awhile or at least pay for the drinks or what ever you may do for that evening..good luck

Answer 30

I say it should be the one who issued the invitation

Answer 31

Whoever asked the other person to go out is the one who should pay on the first date.