Who thinks Edward Cullen sets higher standards for boyfriends?

Question

So here we have in the Twilight Saga, Edward Cullen.

Every single girl that reads this fantastic series falls in LOVE with Edward Cullen.

Certainly in my point of veiw..Edward Cullen sets wayy higher standards for boyfriends.

So watch out ;)

Give me your thoughts.

Answer 1

Yes, Edward Cullen sets WAYYYYYYYYY higher standards for boyfriends. i like my guys dead, cold, and SHINYY! lolz!  ya, well i'm looking for a guy that is like edward i guess.  

Answer 2

I LUV EDWARD I THINK HE'S PERFECT FOR EVERYTHING BECASUE HE CARES, HE SWEET AND EVERYTHING!!!!!!!

I LUV HIM

Answer 3

He doesn't necessarily set a higher standard; he just shows girls a standard that used to exist that they have never known.  In the early 1900s, when Edward was alive, that is how it was expected for men to treat women.  That has changed now--and I don't think that it is the mens' faults.  Women have pushed so hard to be equal in EVERY way to men that men don't feel the need to cherish and treat a woman like a woman.  But then, lo and behold, when some author writes about a man who does treat women like that, all the girls want it!  Maybe women should not have pushed so hard to blend the gender roles.

Also, we have to remember that Edward is told from Bella's perspective.  Stephenie Meyer has said in many interviews that he is not as perfect as he seems; Bella has rose colored glasses on and that is really the view that we see.  We are meant to love him because Bella loves him.

Finally, there are men out there like Edward.  My own husband, for instance, has told me (way before we even started dating) that he had observed what women seemed to like and appreciate most--both in real life and in books, movies, etc--and then he tried to adopt those qualities.  He didn't lose any of his own personality, but he did take on things that women appreciated more.  He always treats me with love and respect--always treats me the way a gentleman should--but he still has his playful streak and humor.  He knows  that women swoon over the Cullens and Darcys of the world, so he figured out what they did differently and then added some of that old fashioned charm to his arsenal.

(Please note that I am not anti-feminist.  I just think that the feminist movement may have pushed too far in some aspects, and the influx of girls who swoon over the old fashioned approach of Edward Cullen solidifies that in my mind.)

Answer 4

Unfortunately for men yeah.

He really set higher standards, after I've read twilight, I was just like, "Thanks a lot Stephenie Meyer, now I won't marry!!!" It's so wierd to be influenced greatly by a mere fictional character. But I was, I don't know how. I just wish every guy in this world is like Edward...*sighs*

Answer 5

I know this may sound reli weird but I've only read the first book, Twilight

and I've just fallen in love with him

I agree with you and now I don't think anyone can top him

i used to have a crush on this reli nice guy at school

hes like everything i want him to be

and i care about him A LOT

but now i dont reli anymore

he's like just a normal guy

but it might be because i haven't seen him in ages (summer holidays)

I kinda wish that Edward was real

or even there is someone who's like him in my life

I don't care if he's a vampire or anything

I dont think i wanna be with someone other than someone like him but i know it's not really possible

i cannot get over him

any advise??

much love

x

Answer 6

yes he does.... first it was just bill kaulitz who set my standards higher.... now im looking for a german rock singer who wears eyeliner, and just happens to be a vampire in disguise...

Answer 7

hehehe. SO true! Every girl is expecting a guy like Edward Cullen (we're all on the hunt!) but it's not that hard to be like him- He just looks out for her and cares about her (but yeah, it helps that he's GORGEOUS and has cute lines in the book! eg.I'll be back so soon you won't even have time to miss me. Look after my heart-I've left it with you. awwww!)

Yeah, deffinitely higher standard for boyfriends! And now every girl compares every guy they see to Edward! My friend went to formal and saw a guy with same cheekbones as edward so she decided to talk to him! Then she left because he had a weird name!

Good luck matching his standards!

Answer 8

No because he's a fictional character. Of course fictional characters are perfect boyfriends, you can control what they do. People need to understand he's not real - I've read the Twilight Saga, it doesn't mean my BF now need to be the pinnacle of perfection to be good enough for me.

Answer 9

Aye!

Answer 10

I Love Edward Cullen!

Twilight Is Amazing & Omg It Is So True.

Standards For Boyfriends Will Go Higher

For Every Girl Who Reads Twilight.

Haha, Ahh If Only He Was Real. Lol.

Answer 11

Us girls want an Edward Cullen because he is a guy that would do anything for one that will love you no matter what. LA TUA CANTANTE. I know that I will definitely look for my Edward but I can live with just a few imperfections. But yeah he does set higher standards because he is not a jerk and likes you for YOU!!

Answer 12

No I don't.  I would never in a million years want a boyfriend like Edward.  First of all, he is only attracted to Bella because she smells like she's tasty, meaning he looks at her, quite literally, like a piece of meat.  Secondly, he has no great qualities except for the fact that he's hot; his personality is not extraordinary, he seems pretty boring.

Third of all, and probably most importantly, he is creepy and controlling.  He watches Bella while she sleeps, which is stalking.  He also tries to make decisions for her because he thinks he knows better than her.  Also, he sometimes uses his strength to implement his decisions (ex. prom).  He is pretty much an abusive boyfriend, and I would never want one like him.

Answer 13

i agree. Edward is amazing and soon when the movie comes out everyone will know why we fell in love with him and soon we will be even more in love with him because he will be real

Answer 14

I kind of agree as the way he acts towards bella and the things he says to her are overly romantic which no guy would do frankly (unfortunatly lol).

but girls realise this and so dont expect it

Answer 15

Well it depends what kind of person you are and how you saw the series.

It's true most of the girls do fall in love with the idea of a guy like Edward Cullen. However, quite a few people also understand this completely and utterly fiction and the likeliness of finding such a guy is dubious.

Breaking Dawn may have also helped to shatter the idea of this being a reality. I neither abhor nor love it, it was ok to me. But to that large chunk of people freaking over how awful it was and how it was wrong and so forth. They may have also faced this truth.

Girls who have previously dated would probably also have had experience of how seriously unlikely this is.

There might also be a group of people who feel Edward isn't the most perfect guy in the world. I mean, yes, he is hot and rich and lives to make you feel happy but he barely puts an argument for anything, which can be great but surely that gets dull. He can be way to overprotective and he fusses over the smallest things. These might not appeal to everyone.

Obviously, there is also the other end of the spectrum. The people who react as "I am annoyed at Stephenie cause I feel I am never going to marry or find someone as great as Edward." They are/will either get over it or end up alone. No offense to them.

I've explored the girls side but for the guys, I have a feeling they will probably feel threatened. What with all the girls going "oh, Edward!" and such, they will probably want to up the ante (seeing as half of them think this Edward guy is real). Especially if they are already dating a girl and she's read the book and has been going on about it like that. Some guys might even go up to the point where they try to become just like Edward, changing their personalities and such. That may not be a good idea though, it is better to be appreciated for who and what you are than be something else altogether. You'd be living a facade all your life. Besides, then we'd have too many Edwards and it would get dull.

Also, there is the likeliness the Twilight-i-ness will blow off. So after a few years, hardly anyone will remember Edward Cullen and such and can get on with their lives. The guys would probably change back to their own ways anyway, now that the threat has blown off. But heh, who knows, this might go on for the rest of our lives.

So like I said, it depends what kinda girl/guy you are and how you felt about the books.

Answer 16

I would love for my boyfriend to act like Edward.

Answer 17

I too fell in Love with Edward.

I think he sets higher standards for boyfriends to live up to, but not totally unreachable ones. Sure he is physically perfect in every way and his love is out of this world, but he does have his problems.

He is overly protective and a tad controlling at times, but these aren't the aspects that girls fall in love with. We fall in love with the way he loves Bella and cares for her, the way he turned against his nature to love and protect her.

I think that we all know the chances of us finding a perfect person is unlikely, but after reading the book I think that everyone wants to find someone to love them as much as Edward loved Bella.

Besides, even if it is all fiction, we can Dream.  

Answer 18

I really hope not!

Edward stalks Bella, is possessive, overprotective, and controlling, and arguably emotionally abusive of her. It might look very romantic on paper, but in real life, I'd be filing a restraining order! Or, if it was a friend or, heaven forbid, my daughter, staging an intervention. He has the classic markers of an abuser.

Answer 19

i totally agree with you but i honestly dont think

anyone could come close to all that perfectness.

i mean they could try but it

would be PRETTY hard! =]

Answer 20

I would definitely agree that he has set a higher standard. at least every girl that i know who has read the book, now looks at guys and wonder if they could ever be like Edward. though it is kind of funny that we base this on a fictional character.  

Answer 21

Not really...

Cause he's a vampire and a WHOLE different set of rules apply to his relationship with girls...

But then again, I think girls will want guys to be more sweet now!

Lol

=]

Answer 22

Oh gosh I couldn't agree with you more. I think that Edward Cullen has ruined all potential relationships for me. I'm sorry but I don't think I could date guys anymore without comparing them to Edward and thinking hmmm... Edward doesn't do this, but he does this. And Edward doesn't do that, but he does that. It's ridiculous. He has definitely set impossibly high standards, ones which may have only been able to be fulfilled in the 20th century...If I never end up getting married, my mother will definitely know why ;)  

Answer 23

Yes, he sets a higher standards, but girls know they'll never get it from their boyfriends.  As long as boy children are being raised to be self centered by their parents, they will continue to become narcissistic abusive adults. Until parents raise the standards and demand more gentlemanly behavior from their little boys, our society is doomed.

Answer 24

of course edward cullen sets much higher standards

all men most sparkle now