I'm pregnant with my 2nd son. I had 5 baby showers with my 1st (now 2 1/2 years old), and I was not expecting any for this pregnancy. My friends, family, church, and coworkers were so overly generous last time around, I would feel bad registering and asking them for any more gifts. Well, two of my friends who have been asking me since finding out that I'm pregnant if anyone is giving me a shower this time around (they were in charge of the church one the last time) and I've been telling them no and that I don't expect one because you don't get one for the 2nd child (unless there is a really huge age gap between them).
They just e-mailed me and told me that they are planning one for me at a restaurant and they want me to send them a guest list and that I should register somewhere so that people will know what sort of things I want. The only two baby items I don't have left over are way too expensive for me to ask any of my friends for, so I am not going to register. Also, I don't know who to invite. I was considering only asking friends who either I didn't know or wasn't that close to the last time, but then if my long time friends hear about it, I don't want them to feel slighted. If I ask my long time friends, I don't want them feeling obligated to spend any more money. Most of them really when overboard in spending with my first pregnancy. Also, they wont give me a limit on the number of people I can invite, and if it will be at a restaurant, they will have to pay for whatever people order, and I don't want them going broke paying for it. If I could find a way to tell them that I love them for wanting to do this for me, but no thank you without hurting their feelings, I would.
Here is my question: Who should I invite, and what is a reasonable number that will let them have the party they want to have for me, but not break their pocketbooks (I make more than the two of them combined, and know they can't afford to do this).
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