Who was in the wrong - me or this girl ?

Question

a couple of jewish girls I know at college got chatting with me in class, then I overheard one of them say yom kippur or something, I asked 'whats yom kippur, some kind of fish or something ?'

and one stuck up girl rudely replied 'well does Om mean ? short for Ommlette ??'

I almost raked her eyes and nose clean off that b!tchez face but decided not to.

Was it a provocation on my part ? i mean i didn't KNOW what 'yom Kippers' or w/e its called meant, so really it wasn't MY fault now was it ? To me that jewish girl came across rude and insulting.

Answer 1

Actually, all of you were "in the wrong".

You should have just asked, "What is Yom Kippur?", and then given them a chance to explain it to you.

You shouldn't have displayed your ignorance by asking if it was some kind of fish or something.

I hope you have taken some time to research your question to find out the answer yourself.

Answer 2

while i'd love an OM-lette...i wouldn't say no to a Yommy Kipper !

you girls fought over the stupidest thing i've ever heard...holy bat ****, seriously start f@@king growing up ok ? You act , infact you come across like somebody who forgot to go through teenhood - did you grow out of it ? or are you still a spoilt immature obnoxcious little girl ? you may be pretty but you sure as h**l boast an ugly personality and attitude.

I wish the jewish girls had ganged up on you and kicked your *** there and then on the spot.

you silly immature little S**t. ^^ !

all the best

the_darkness_within

Answer 3

Nah it wasn't your fault, you didn't know.  They probably just thought you were taking the p**s, which annoyed them.  

Answer 4

Well i dnt think it was your fault reeli, they sudnt have been so offended. They sudda just laughed and told you what it ment.

x

Answer 5

Well To be honest I think you were in the right. Because 'yom kippur' does sound like kipper = fish!

The girl should not have over-reacted saying Om-Omelette.. I don't understand how omelettes came into the conversation anyway.. So Why she said omelette.. I dont know, but You haven't done anything wrong because 'Kippur' could easily be mistaken for 'Kipper' as it is same/similar pronunciation.

You could either speak to the girls and appologise if  you hurt their feelings.. Or you could just leave it and avoid any further upset. But well done for not attacking the girl, cos then you'd be in the wrong!

Hope I've helped x

Answer 6

She shouldn't have lashed out at you like that. But, to refer to the most holy day of the year as a fish probably upset her greatly. She should have just made a simple comment that it was a High Holy Day in the Jewish religion. I am sorry that she was like "that" to you. It seems that you have a little bit of a responsibility in this also. Next time, maybe you could approach these kinds of sensitive issues a little more delicately. After all, the two things you tread lightly on are religion and politics. :D  Hope I have shed some light, or gave you a little validation.

Answer 7

Of course you were rude, you could have just asked what it meant instead of attaching the snippy comment at the end.

Answer 8

Lots of people in the world love jewish people so the best is to give them respect and ... you to think positive!

Answer 9

no u wasn't in the wrong, instead of her being sarcastic she should have told u wat it meant. she was very rude for that dumb comment she made.  

Answer 10

Ha ha ha - thats hilarious - calm down chick!!!  You didn't know what Yom Kippur was and she didn't know what Om was - now to her you were insulting so she just shot back a reply which I think was kinda witty.  You sound like a right little hellcat you do - where you from Birmingham Massive / related to Southall Holy Smokes, Jeez take it easy Hanji??

Answer 11

she may have been rude but so were you, there was no need to say 'some kind of fish or something', I would have ripped your eyes straight from your face! That was an insulting comment on your behalf and you deserved the petty response she gave.

Answer 12

yes but why did you have to say 'fish or something' you have to take responsibilty for your words too.  If you didn't know there are other ways of asking that are more polite and respectful..........just think a bit more

Answer 13

Well if you honestly didn't know, and really thought she might be talking about kippers then I suppose you weren't in the wrong, however it could have been quite insulting to the girl and she wouldn't have known you were being mean deliberately about her faith.

I'm assuming you've researched it since or you wouldn't have known it would be important to mention they are Jewish. In the future be careful about what you say, if talking to people you don't know be sure to suss them out before you let loose your sense of humour.

Answer 14

She prob was used to rude remars surounding her religion and efnicity. What you should have done is tell her that you realy had no idea what it was and that you are sorry, plus FISH stands for something rude.

F #ckin I sraely S #it H ead

Answer 15

Don't worry honey I now you r sad and i think the fault is on the other girls ok bye don't think in that anymore ok honey

Answer 16

You could have asked what it meant it a much nicer way, but then her reply wasn't nice either.

Both of you were to blame but she may have just been defensive when you asked a the question in not a particularly nice way.

If you always try to be the bigger person (its not easy) then you avoid the situations, nobody wins in the end anway.

The main thing is you actually thought about it and it bothers you which shows you are a good person!

Answer 17

I think what you said came across as mocking or insulting, even if you didn't mean to be. You could have said something along the lines of "What is Yom Kippur?" instead of adding the fish comment.

Honestly, if I was in the other girl's shoes, I would've retaliated too. It's normal for someone to defend their faith.

Next time you see her, just explain you didn't mean to be rude.

Answer 18

No I don't think u were wrong at all...not everyone knows what Yom Kipper is...But maybe if u did'nt say " Some fish r something " it was wrong that the girl tryed 2 make u sound like an idiot...They might of thought u were making fun of them in some way. That's the whole point of learning u learn something new everyday u shouldn't b criticized because of it

Answer 19

Dude --that girl was just probably being her usual bitchy self. Don't waste your energy trying to even figure her out. You were not being rude, you were just curious. Let it go. I mean, you don't need her. :D

or--

Maybe your question just came across as sarcastic to her so she decided to give what she thought she was getting. It's not good when you butt in some people's discussion.( even if it was unintentional)

STILL -- let it go. she's not worth that negative energy.

Answer 20

Well she obviously thought you were mocking what she said with the 'kipper' reference - I'm sure that wasn't your intention though. Perhaps you should just have asked 'what does yom kippur mean?' rather than adding the fish part, then she probably wouldn't have taken so much offence.

There was no need for her to retaliate either though.

Answer 21

you both reacted in the wrong way. and i'm sorry to say that you started it.

her question about the OM is no different from yours asking if Yom Kippur, which happens to be the holiest day of the year for the Jews, was a kind of fish.

it was your fault - if only you'd stopped at 'what is yom kippur?' why did you feel the need to add a stupid comment about fish on the end?

they would have felt as equally as insulted as you.

Answer 22

You shouldn't have asked if it was a fish, but even so, I would view it as a foolish mistake, something to be laughed at.  

Answer 23

i love what you said about raking her, ha... she was very rude. i'd be plotting... ha...

Answer 24

depends on how u said it maybe it's your fault maybe you don;t have any fault at all..

Answer 25

Unfortunately, even if the girl was rude to you, what you said could have sounded like you were taking the mickey of of their religion, intended or not and Yom Kippur is a relegious event as far as I'm aware. When it comes to be religion, it's usually best to be quiet and go and google it on your own - just in case... :)