Who was the most influential "entity" in making your adoption plan?

Question

That seems like an interesting question the other poster who asked it has blocked me, even though she still shows up to answer my questions.

Anyway, I'd love to know too...was it your signifigant other, parents, the billboards you always pass your church or some other factor?

Answer 1

As a birthmom...I was my influence...and probably MY birthmom.  I saw how wonderful and experience it was for me and knew it was the best choice I could make at the time.

Answer 2

my parents. and they regret it to this day.

Answer 3

Lutheran Social Services, societal attitudes against single parenting in the early 1970's, and my n-father.

My maternal grandmother actually tried to get me back out of the foster home that LSS stuck me in while they harrassed and coerced my mother for 4 months.

Answer 4

Me and reality.

Answer 5

My mother, an adoptee.  It made me think that if she had a great childhood I could offer that to a child.  She has always been very supportive of my decision since I first mentioned it to her at 10.

Answer 6

Birthmother’s mother is the one that encouraged her to place me. It’s ok though I was better off being adopted into a family who accepts me for being bi-racial. Then having to grow up around a “grandmother” and possible other “family” members who did not.

Answer 7

My son's bio family for fighting DYFS to proceed with the adoption plan THEY chose.

ETA:  I just reread your question, and apologize I did not realize it was addressed to bio parents - with "your adoption plan".  My apologies.  I would delete my answer, but feel it is important for people to know that the state foster program can be coercive too.

Answer 8

Er...society and my a'parents' infertility.  My first mother was 21--an adult, but single.  In today's world she could have more easily kept me had she wanted to, but in 1965 she "didn't even want to think about" that.  And had my a'parents been able to have their own kids, they wouldn't have adopted.  That wasn't done much back then.

Answer 9

My maternal grandmother - and 1960's Australian society - even though my father had offered marriage.

My mother was sent to another state and told 'do not come back with that baby'!!

My maternal grandmother sounded like a force to be reckoned with.

ICK.

Answer 10

I know, she has me blocked too.  I don't know why they say APs are control freaks...

In my own adoption, my maternal grandmother was the main force behind my being given up for adoption. The other was 1960s America, which had never heard of unmarried women raising their children.

Answer 11

The stunned b****h of a social worker. May she rot in h**l for ripping apart families to fill her own pockets with tainted money.

For my adoption it was my grandmother who sent my mom off to have me at my great aunts telling her "Come home alone".