Who would walk me down the isle or dance with me?

Question

sorry its long but i really wanna know

OK so I still have a dad, but he's in a homeless christian shelter right now trying to get better. he's been in and out or rehabs, jail, i have some good memories with him but plenty of bad ones. he's like totally out of our lives and i dont see him much as a dad anymore. hes an alcoholic and drug addict and i dont want him at my wedding in fear that he'll ruin it by getting drunk (no one in my or my bfs family ever ever drinks besides my dad) and i dont know what to do. as much as id love my dad there, i dont think he'd show up if he was invited. neither does anyone else in my family. im not getting married me and my bf might in 2-4 years. (im almost 17) but its always stumped me who would walk me down the isle and have a father daughter dance. i cant imagine getting married without those 2. my boyfriends dad is amazing and right now closer to me and more of a dad than my own is. so everyone tells me to have him do it, but i cant imagine dancing with him as a father/daughter dance so heres my question:

1) who would walk me down the isle and have the dance with me

2) would it be weird to have my boyfriends dad do it? even though his family members (some of them) including my bf told me to have him do it?

im asking because everyone in his family always asks us when we're getting married and stuff. we've been dating since i was 13. almost 14. and i have his moms promise ring she got when she was 16 and i got it on my 16th bday and all

please no rude answers that we're young. i just wanna know, even if i dont marry my current bf.

Answer 1

well if you have a step dad he could, or if you have a brother,even a uncle .you could still have a dance just not a father daughter dance. you don't usually have your boyfriend's dad do it kc

Answer 2

Have your mother walk you down the aisle.  

Answer 3

I would take the advice that you have recived and have your father in law walk you down the ailse. I am sure he will do it. If you feel uncomfortable about it. Find another person that you do feel comfortable with. What about your mom or a close friend boy or girl. I am getting married and both of my parents are walked me down the ailse. ANd as for the dance. You really don't have to have one. We are not having the parent dance, just cause we don't want to. You can make your wedding how ever you want. Good luck!

Answer 4

Have 2 people walking you down the aisle and have 2 father/daughter dances. It will be that extra but special and will help you every step of the way knowing that you have two father figues ton support you on your extra special day. Good Luck with all your plans and the wedding and hope that you and your future husband have a happy life together.

Answer 5

I think you can have your mother walk you down the aisle! OR you don't have to be traditional, you could walk down alone. I've seen it done both ways and it works out fine!

Answer 6

It's not about the father/daughter dance or how walks you down the isle. The only thing that matter is you and your boyfriend are in love and want to spend the rest of your lives together. Maybe your brother, step dad, uncle, or a real close friend can do. The best of luck to the both of you!

Answer 7

Honestly you shouldn't worry about that until you're actually engaged and have a date set. You don't have to have anyone walk you or dance with you. It's not a big deal. If you really want someone have your mom, a brother, an uncle, etc stand in. I honestly don't see the point in replacing your dad though. Just walk down by yourself (which is not unusual) and skip the dance (which no one will miss). Problem solved!

Answer 8

Maybe in 2-4 years you and your father will rekindle your relationship and he will be able to do that stuff with you.  If not, I would ask one of your brother's (if you have any), or a really close uncle.  I wouldn't have you future father in law do it because I think someone from your side of the family has to do it.  Good luck!

Answer 9

At a recent wedding, the bride had her boss (and very close friend) walk her down the aisle. Both of her parents are deceased, so she asked a good friend.  

Answer 10

My father suffers from various addictions - long story short, my mother walked me down the aisle. It was a very special moment for the two of us and she made me feel calm and relaxed.

As for the dance, we just skipped it. I don't like being in the spotlight all that much anyway, so I had no problem cutting that dance out.

But - you could have your brother walk you down the aisle. Or you could ask your boyfriends father to do it. I know that my husbands father would have walked me down the aisle if I had asked him to.

Answer 11

Do you have a brother he could do. if you have a grandfather he could. but there is really no reason why your bf dad couldnt do it. if he is close to you then why no. i mean he will be family and you will most likey be callin him dad. so have your bf dad do it trust me its really not that uncommon if the bride dad is not around. go for it . why cant you see your bf dad dancing with you for the father/daughter dance.?