Whos wrong me or my dad?

Question

ok,so 2 weeks ago my dad said it was fine that i can take my drum set over to my friends house so i can practice with my band over there.

so change in plans i ended not taking them,but now my other friend said "hey,we could practice in my house" so i said its ok. but when my dad found out that they're at my friends house,he totally went crazy. saying how i shoudlve have asked him first,and that i shouldn't be doing that.now he wants to grown from a show tomorrow personally i dint think i did anything wrong.i trust my friends,i know what I'm doing,they re my drums.

maybe i should have asked him first but i thought he'd be cool with it since he said it was ok 2 weeks ago. im 16,i cant drive,my garage is crowded right now,which is why they're at my friends place.i have no independence at all,the show i wanna go is like 5 minutes away and he wants to drop me off.

so whos right here me or my dad?

Answer 1

wow

your dad's right

bummer

Answer 2

Who paid for those drums, you or dad?

While you may trust your friends, that doesn't mean they're actually trust worthy. Or that they won't have others around to mess with your expensive set of drums and possibly destroy them.

Dad's right. You should always talk to him before doing anything with anything that he's bought for you.  

Answer 3

both. He said it was okay to go to friend #1 house, but not for friend #2 house. You should have told him before moving them. I don't know why he is making a fuss about it though, if it were my son, I would have loaded them in the car and taken them before he could get his shoes one (he's not very good, they just like to bang on them to annoy me-he's better at the trumpet)

Answer 4

Your dad is right. First, just because he says it is okay to take the drums to one friends house doesn't mean you can take them just anywhere. Who bought the drums? You or your dad? Have you given your dad any reason NOT to trust you? Maybe your dad wants to check the place you are going to, to make sure it is safe. If you want to be independent at the age of 16 show your dad you can be responsible enough to make the right decisions. Wether it is asking him something simple or showing him that he can trust you.

Answer 5

Your dad is right.  He's the adult and can still tell you what to do, so deal with it!  It's your dads decision whether you can do things or not and if he says no well then that's the say its gotta be.  Sorry.

Answer 6

Well when you first asked him it was a certain friends house. Then plans changed and you took the drums to a different friends house. I think he was just upset that you didn't let him know what was going on. I'm guessing that he paid for the drums or else this wouldn't be an issue.

Live and learn. Next time you ask him something and he says yes and the plans change in just one minor aspect just let him know. I'm sure he will be understanding if you just let him know whats going on.

I can't say the one of you is right because obviously your dad has some rules and maybe he didn't lay them all out to you. Just know now that you need to let him know everything so he doesn't freak out again.

Best of luck with your Dad and your band.