Whose fault is it? The Parent or the Kid?

Question

I just have a question, but whose fault is it?

During the arguement, a parent used the "My House My Rules" to their son, and telling him that, if they don't like it then he can get out of their house.

Well the kid, eventaully did got out of the house and was never to be seen again.

So whose fault is it? The parent or the boy?

** Noted, the boy is under 18 **

Answer 1

both the parents and boy have to comprimise with each other and work something out that will be good for both .....

Answer 2

Well obviously the boys.

He is the one who left right?

Its not like they threw him out and he tried to stay.

Answer 3

The parents I would think.

Answer 4

The parents.

I can never imagine saying to my child "my house, my rules" - if you want respect and a child who feels safe and comfortable in his own home, you need to include him as a person who has a RIGHT to his home.

Answer 5

The parent.

Answer 6

I'd say kinda in the middle, but leaning more towards the parent's. That wasn't necessary for the parent to say something like that. It's common sense to never tell the kid to actually leave. But then again the parent didn't physically force the kid to leave.

Answer 7

Ok this is what your questions sounds like to me. You have had a fight with your folks. they have said my house my rules. You have

daydreamed that one day you will leave and never come back and then they will be sorry. Am I right? All kids go through these fights with their folks. All kids think that I will run away and they will never see me again and then they will be so sorry. I can remember thinking that I would lock myself in my bedroom and only come out at night to get food and they would never see me again. That's how naive I was.

The fact of the matter is that yes it is their house and their rules and

if you run away and never come back then you are being very silly and childish and it is your fault. No one has kicked you out they just

told you that they expect you to obey their rules.

Answer 8

If the parent didn't want the kid to move out then they shouldn't have used that threat because clearly it blew up  in their face.

It is the parents fault. They raised their child and apparently not very well seeing as he was so disobedient.

Answer 9

It would be the child's fault. There are rules for a reason (most of the time) and they are there to protect the child. It doesn't mean if you don't want to follow them then leave it means I am the parent I know what is best for you so you need to follow the rules for your own safety. Some parents say if you don't like it then leave but they don't really mean it they are just trying to give him a reality check.  

Answer 10

I would assume that the boy did not leave over one such conversation. Say the home was happy and all was going smoothly with only regular little conflict and than a huge conflict came up and this was said and the boy left and cut his family out of his life. It doesn't happen like that. There is more to the story than this one sentence and the boy leaving. And who says that any blame needs to be placed? Maybe he just needs some space and time to get independent and the parents need time to learn to back off and to accept him, even if he does things that they consider wrong and in another couple of years the boy may come back and all will be more respectful of the other. Either way. No need to blame. The parents are responsible for what happens in their home. The boy is now responsible for himself.

Answer 11

With not much else to go from, I would have to say that both the child and the parents were out of line. Respect is mutual and neither of them showed it towards each other. Of course, the parents have more blame because they should have taught their child respect. But, if he was able to be emancipated, I'm sure the parents were more at fault.

However if he just ran away, then he needs to get over it. Many families have a "my house- my rules" mentality and it has worked for generations. You can have this mindset and still show and teach your children respect. It is a silly thing to run away because you couldn't handle your chores or the rules for curfew that so many teens complain about.