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Question

My ex is a piece of **** he got remarried 2.5yrs a go, and I got remarried 3yrs a go, so I’m not jealous of his wife, she is a little prettier than me 18yr younger got job that pays 90K a year and I’m 6th grade drop out. But I’m a good mom and I want what is best for my daughter and every time, I complained to her telling her that my ex needs to see his daughter she says is not her place to say anything, if that was her child. Why doesn’t tell her husband to be a dad.

Answer 1

If you didn't care, you wouldn't go after the new wife.  Go after him, not her.

Answer 2

Oh good grief. I'm so sick of hearing this. My fiance's ex wife pulls this too. Like it's MY job to make him the dad that she wants him to be. NO it's not. It's HIS job to be the dad he wants to be. All she can do is remind him to call or visit the kid (s). That's all she can do......she cannot 'make' him do anything. That is up to him.

Don't continue to harass him or his wife tho, it will only drive you nuts and push him further and further away.

Answer 3

She is happy with him how he is, and truly it isn't her place to tell him how to be a parent.  I wouldn't bother her if I were you, it just makes you appear jealous.  Why don't you tell him he needs to see her more often?  Then he might actually come and see her.  

Answer 4

As much as you might want her on your side it really ISN'T her fault or problem.  She can't force him to do anything.  I give my husband suggestions on contacting his daughter but whether he takes that advice or not is up to him.  It's his child.  Not mine.  I can suggest that he be more friendly with his ex, or that he pay a little more child support but ultimately it just causes arguing between us too & that's not what we want either.  Deal with your husband.  If she doesn't want to help you she really doesn't HAVE to.

Answer 5

Because it isn't her place.

Answer 6

its not her place. its between you and him. you shouldnt be complaing to her about anything. if theres somthing that has to do with her and your kid, well thats different, thats the only time you involve her.

Answer 7

She is a smart lady. It's not her place and she knows it. If you cannot talk to your child's father about it, talk to a lawyer, not his new wife.  

Answer 8

sweetie don't bring your ex wife into this situation! you have to be concern about him being the father of your daughter and try to talk to him about his rights as a father as well as his duties as a father! good luck

Answer 9

Being a dad is because he wants to be a dad, not because he is being told to be a dad. It is not her place to play you gotta be a daddy to her hubby. It's your ex's responsibility to his daughter. If HE chooses not to be a DAD then it will only be between him and his daughter in the years to come. Your job is to make sure she is available to him so that she does not resent you in later years for keeping her away from him. Sounds as if he is just a ....deadbeat dad.....

Answer 10

She's right.  It's not her place to get between him and his daughter.  That is his decision to make.

But...  If he doens't make the time for your daughter, and isn't ever there for her.  Move on..  Don't force him to see your daughter....  You said you're remarried as well, well she at least has her stepdad to be there for her.  She has a family at home, let it be..

Maybe unfortunately for him, she will move on to not want anything to do with him once she learns that he's a dead beat dad..  Sad but true..

I adopted my niece and she now calls my husband dad and me mom because her parents don't take the time for her and she learned that and made her own decision.

Answer 11

She's right.  It's not her place to convince him to be a father, nor is it your place to bring her into the middle of this.  If he doesn't want to be a father to his child, there is nothing that anyone can say to convince him otherwise.

Answer 12

She;s right Tina. It's not her place.  She can't give her husband father balls that he doesn't seem to have grown on his own.

You shouldn't really even involve her.  Just do what you can legally for him to have to have vistitaions.

Answer 13

Because she's RIGHT...it ISN'T her place.  That's between you and him.  Getting her in the middle is starting drama.   Sounds like she's pretty mature - and called your bluff if you wanna know my honest opinion.  If you honestly didn't care about her being prettier or more wealthy or younger, half your question wouldn't be about describing her.  

Talk to him.  If he doesn't want to see his daughter more - that his loss!!! You can't MAKE him be a father!