Why Are People Always Saying On Here About Teens And Young Adults?

Question

"Shes 17, theres not a darn thing you can do." or "At 18 shes an adult and you really dont have any authority."

Thats a bunch of B.S.

You have a few options. One is whoopin' her butt, which I know first hand is very effective.

So do the people on this forum http://www.voy.com/214955/

Answer 1

I was a real "problem child" to put it lightly,and although getting my frequently administered butt paddlings at school and the belt at home did work to control me for a while,it eventually turned into a sexual deviant obscession that I carry now into my adult life. It is nothing I would ever do to my children[spank] especially because of the sexual overtones,but also that as adults we ought to be able to provide guidance with our being examples and getting our points across in less violent techniques ,that just take a little more time and effort to achieve better results -long term.

Answer 2

Last I heard you weren't allowed to "whoop" anybody, no matter what their age.  

Answer 3

What is it with people like you going on about whoopin!!!  Try it on your 18 year old and there likely to 'whoop' you right back!

Answer 4

I agree that at 18, as long as the person lives in your house they should live by your rules. However, I think 18 years old is a bit too old for a so called "butt whooping."

Answer 5

Sorry, but abusing my children no matter what age is not an option for me. And considering that in Canada, where I live, it is illegal to spank a child, even with an open hand, under the age of two and over the age of 12, I wouldn't be risking my children being raised in foster homes. I'm a much better mom than that.

I'll come up with other ways to discipline my children, thank you very much. Any parent that feels the need to hit a defenseless, innocent child at any age is a coward and should not be a parent at all.  

Answer 6

I personally feel that spanking, whooping is assault at any age. I dont understand how it magically becomes assault at 18.

But, I do understand what you are saying. They are still your child whether they are 8, 18 or 38 especially if they are living at home or are on your payroll. They should be expected to show the parent respect and live by their rules and pay their consequences. I too get frustrated with such answers as if the parent is helpless to do anything and allow the youngin' to do as they wish. It is a harsh reality that you can NEVER do as you wish. There is always a consequence.

Answer 7

well i cant " woop" any my girl if they was 18 because they would be adults and that would be assault and they would probly laugh lol. but i know one thing is that my kids will do what i say as long as theyre living in my home no matter what age!

Answer 8

whooping is bad i'll never whoop my kids

Answer 9

I believe in the "tough love" method.

Where they learn from their consequences by their actions.

If they decided to ride a bike with out padding and fall off on black top, the consequence is road rash. A child knows very well, when adults are responsible on teaching first, that padding helps decrease injuries.

It is called the Cause and Effect learning. A child can not learn from their actions from their action, if we give a consequence that has no relation to it.

I don't think spanking or hitting a child or an adult is going to get any message across other than more pain and anger.

If a guy or girl is 18 years old, smarting off, not doing a thing around the house, hanging with wrong crowd, don't want a job but still wants to get things..............

Will have 30 days to: Find a job to afford: the apartment/place to live/staying, their meals, clothes, Cd's, shoes, gas, car, insurance and any unhealthy habits I will not ever agree with.

That is a reality check my dear.  If they want to be all smarty pants, well then lets test their surviving skills. They will soon realize how much they took for granted that their parents gave. Not just the items, but the love that went with it.

The only thing I will help pay for is school/college. I am a firm believer in education and if they want to go to college, I will take out a big loan no matter what cost, for them to succeed in life.

I mean come on, this is coming from a 22 year old who knows very well how hard adult life throws balls. I was a good kid not given that "tough love" thankfully, but I watched it with my sister. Major eye opener.

EDIT:

I am going to assume either those who are giving thumbs down are either sour grapes or it is the person who asked the question.  I notice that a lot. Interesting how people are.

Quite amusing that those who agree to spank are the FIRST ones to file assault charges when another person thinks they deserve to be wacked.  No matter if 8 or 48, if a person is allowed to hit another and justify it, then that other IS ALLOWED to do the very same thing back.  Never ending cycle.

Thumbs up for Emmy, she has a great point that the person who asked the question should really think about.

Answer 10

Parents are lazy and like to blame everyone else for their own actions or lack of in this case.

If their child doesn't listen for some odd reason, they don't know how to get their child to listen and that's because for their child's entire life, they never enforce rules or discipline effectively so by the time the kid is 16-18, they are unruly and out of control.

Kids aren't taught respect or manners and it's due to the laziness and selfishness of the parents.

Answer 11

I think it's because at 18, parents are afraid to "whoop" their children. Usually by that stage in life, the parents have become older, and therefore weaker, and the child has become stronger, and is in their prime. Also, once a person is legally termed an "adult" they do have more rights than a minor. Children should never be "whooped" though. A spanking is fair for discipline, but that doesn't mean that parents should abuse their kids. It is not assault at 3,6 or 10 because it is discipline. By 17-18, a person is beyond needing physical discipline.

Answer 12

Yep its a effective way to traumatize your child, so they don't have to learn self discipline and will be lost when they move out. Anyway this is not a question it is a rant, that is against community guidelines, would you like someone to whoop your butt for breaking the rules?

Answer 13

It's assault at any age.  And you are wrontg, it is ineffective.  Teach your kids right from wrong and appropriate behaviour from early on and you won't have a problem.  Be a parent.  

Answer 14

I get your point, but I don't agree on spanking a teenager. That is morally wrong. Spanking a 14, 16, or 18 year old? Come on.

But I do agree that the attitude of society that expects and permits teenagers to rebel is crazy. That is not acceptable. You can still act like a dignified, responsible human while you are a teenager.  

Answer 15

Well it depends if you hit her she has every right to kick your ***. 18 she can do what she wants. And it's still assault when they're kids, only idiots say it's not. And fetish sites are fine but try to  o****m wii'thout asking dumb questions

Answer 16

So physically hurting them is an option?  You do know you can be charged with assault and physical harm if you do that.

EDIT:

That is exactly what I mean! If they are 18, they could press charges... if they were 3, 6, 10, they are still too much of a parasite to stand against their parents.