Why Aren't you Married?

Question

I am 40, and never plan to marry and never plan to have kids as I've had a hysterectomy. So many women tell me that I'll marry and I'll find the one, and I never discuss marriage with them, as I'm single, and I don't like bringing the subject up.

Why do idotic women try to predict my future?

Should I tell them off?

Answer 1

tell them off dont tell them off

as long as you dont give a sh*& what is the difference?

just live your life buddy, who cares about what anyone says.

it is none of their business

if you ask me'lol

Answer 2

Everything people do and say is a reflection of there beliefs. They say these things to re-enforce there own beliefs. You don't need to tell them off. Take the higher road.  

Answer 3

They do the same thing to every woman. When you are single it's "When are you getting a boyfriend", when you have a boyfriend it's "When are You getting Married" When you are married it's "When are YOU Having a Baby." Then they ask you when you're going to Divorce the BUM...so it's a never ending battle. Just ignore all their idiotic questions and tell them it's none of their business.  

Answer 4

now what would be the point to tell them off!

look most people not just women like to think that everyone has the same goal get married have kids ect...

so everyone who has that goal don't understand fully why you picked the path you do!

instead of avoiding it!  explain it to them!

just say look i can see  how you would want that for me but that's not what I want!  Thanks for you input but i'll live my life myway if that is okay with yo u!

see you even got a little slap in there too!! :)

Answer 5

You don't need a piece of paper to display your love for someone . . .  Bottom line.

Answer 6

If someone says something to you...then just tell them what you said on here....that you don't want to get married and have kids...it's just something that you don't want to do....

You can make your own choices, it's your life...don't let other people change what you feel.

Answer 7

you are 40...their just trying to be nice, they probably think you're lonely or something, and you probably are going to be in a few years.

Answer 8

Exactly,thats your business.Have you told them that you dont plan to get married?Just tell them with an attitude next time they bring it up,I DONT WANT TO GET MARRIED!!!!Hopefully they will get the point.

Answer 9

Some people just think it’s ok to pry into your personal life and offer unsolicited advice. I feel like the best way to deal with such c**p is to say “Thanks. I’ll take that into consideration.” and move on to a new topic. There’s no point in trying to convince a rude moron that they’re wrong – they won’t get it no matter how hard you try. I think some people think that if you haven’t experienced something, you don’t know what you’re missing so they need to point it out to you.

If you’re not married/attached (M/A), some people will assume you’re lonely. I’m going to go out on a giant limb here, but if that really was the case, I don’t really think that someone pointing out such “news” would be helpful in any way.

If you were (M/A), people who didn’t know about your surgery would be on your tail about having kids. “You’re not getting any younger you know.” Again, this is something that would seem to be obvious, but some people still feel the need to point it out.

I’m 25, married and expecting my first child. Before I was pregnant, I had some people telling me I should start thinking about kids – I mean Jeeze, I only have 15-20 reproductive years left after all! And now that I am, I’ve had some people gasp that they can’t imagine why I’d want to have them so young!  So maybe the sum of too old + too young is just right? At any rate, I could have done without either set of comments.  

And if you had a kid, people would be begging to know when you’ll have another because that like everything else is so obviously their business.  

Answer 10

I'm 36.. and happily married... But I don't think it's any ones place to judge you because you choose to be a single career woman. I have several family members that never wanted to get married. They just wanted to go to college, travel, and stay single. Two of them have had very long term relationships, but the men who they were with wanted to get married. They didn't. It is a personal choice that you choose to make. I can only speak for myself, when I say I'm a much happier person when I'm married. The only thing I can say is for you to tell the married women who ask you why your not married or have children, just say this is a personal subject, and you don't wish to share that with anyone.

good luck to you. :)  

Answer 11

no i think they are just being nice.it is nice to have a companion of the opposite s*x.someone to share your life with and alot of people believe int hat they are just trying to help you keep the faith.I'm 28 and my family tells me you will get married when the right one comes along and they are saying that cause they love me and care for me and want me to be with a good man.what good is life if you have no one to share it with! if you really don't want to get married just tell them that at this time you are focusing on other things in your life and arnt ready for a relationship.

Answer 12

Dolly Parton once said she thought g*y marriage should be legal because "Y'all ought to have the right to be as miserable as the rest of us..."  I'm not saying you're g*y, I'm just saying that maybe some married women are actually a little envious of your singleness because they're not terribly happy.  I personally am very happy to be married and I adore my husband, but like many women it sounds fun and carefree to be single sometimes, and they might just be a little jealous.  All you have to say is, "Oh, it might be nice to be married, but I'm having lots of fun on my own.  Are you happy being married?"  That ought to shut them up.

Answer 13

I think it is our nature to think that married people are happier and to want people to be happy. They incorrectly assume that you must be unhappy if you aren't married.

Just say, thank you for your concern, but I am perfectly happy not married.

Answer 14

When people see someone who they think is lonely, they're just trying to help - even if it's in a misguided and impolite way. I'd just let it roll off my back if I were you. If you must respond, I'd mention that your life is fine the way it is, perhaps even too busy to even want to meet someone.