Why Can't She Handle Being Called Fat?

Question

my friend who is over 250 lbs, and eats take out every day which is her business. Now, she has some friends that exercise and watch what they eat. Some have openly called her fat, and told her to watch what she eats, like let's say if they go to Burger King. They'll say they want a salad instead of a burger or fattening stuff. Your thoughts???

She goes insane if someone calls her overweight or that she isn't eating right. She'll harp on it for months and months. What is wrong with her? Is she just a bitc&*((

Answer 1

It really hurts to hear that friends are saying this to their friend.  If a person if fat don't you think they know it.  Do you think you telling them just made them realize they are fat.  It has to be their decision to lose weight.  Believe me I can guarantee a fat person know it is unhealthy, they do not need you to tell them.  What ever happened to unconditional love.  You should love you friend because they will be the same person fat or if they lose weight on the inside.  It is sad this world feels they can do whatever they want or say whatever they want and think it does not matter if they hurt someone.  Hey, are you ugly, have bad hair, small b***s...would you like her to bring it up every time you are together and in front of others.  I bet you would not want that anymore than she wants you to do it to her.  No one is perfect, love them for what they are or leave them alone.

Answer 2

She is obese and it is dangerous what she does to eat junk food every day.. it can cause a medical condition really soon because it can increase the blood pressure and clog up the arteries with cholesterol...the junk food... but she must be mature enough to know those risks... she does see herself in the mirror, therefore it's not nice to call her fat.. a better way to tell her would be to say that you are concerned about her, because she eats a lot of unhealthy food but not call her names at all and not mention her body weight.. even if she only weighed 110 lbs to eat burgers on a daily basis would be bad for someones health even if they didn't gain weight... so just talk to her about your concern for healthier eating but don't call her fat and don't mention her weight... that she should try out some normal food... If one works in that business one gets used to eat there I suppose. She probably can eat there for free. A 16 year old boy got a heart attack from eating fried breakfast and burgers every day.. if we are born with a healthy heart, our heart is only protected against heart attack until age 16.. after that ..  one can get a heart attack anytime.. Maybe someone should gently mention health risks of eating too much junk food instead of calling her fat... and what it can do to the arteries in the heart.. and that she should have her blood pressure and cholestorol checked once in a while..  once one has high cholesterol, one needs medication.. otherwise the arteries clog up.. that can lead to a heart attack..  

Answer 3

It's called tough love. its ok to call her fat as she is considered to be fat. fake friends are the ones who killed the word "Thick & Big Bone". she ain't thick and she ain't no big bone. she is just  fat and she will feel bad and start noticing. good job.  

Answer 4

Why is your question about HER? Why isn't it about her poor excuses of "friends" that feel the need to call her names and comment on her food choice?

To answer your question, the thing I most see wrong with her is that she needs new friends.

Answer 5

No one likes to be confronted about their issues or problems. She knows she has a problem. She could have a disorder or something too. It's quite possible. She could feel as if it's futile to start trying to lose weight.

Answer 6

As a person that is currently overweight, I can kind of sympathize with your friend. Its tough being in a world where food is your enemy...yet we need it in order to sustain ourselves and live. Your friend is not being a ***** because she is overweight or because people make snide remarks...she is unhappy with herself image and by eating it comforts her and helps her to cope. Its more of a slap in the face to an obese person when people say to them, you should eat healthier food. The thing is even if we eat healthy we still get stared at in the restaurant and in public, we still get the comments and told "gee have you thought of going on a diet". People think they are helping but what they are really doing is criticizing. Would you go up to a person with a birth defect and say "gee ever thought of corrective surgery?" Of course they have...and I am sure they would give their right foot to be normal. Maybe what you can do the next time someone calls your friend fat, why not stick up for her and say "well your no goody 2 shoes yourself". We all have our faults, some are just more noticeable than others. She may not seem like she cares but believe me...she does and she can't block it out forever. When she is ready to face facts she will, until then all you can be is supportive of her. Set a good example when you go eat out. Order a salad and a diet drink and don't mock her for her choices. Instead, maybe one day she might decide to try what you're having. The more you push her to try to lose weight and diet, the more she will resist...instead, just be a friend, mentor and good example. Maybe invite her for walks or bike rides with you, or invite her to go swimming or hiking. Keep in mind she may not want to at first, but after a while she will see that you are her friend and you are only trying to include her.  

Answer 7

you cant just tell someone shes fat. most females that are obese are depressed. (im not generalizing, some big people are very happy) so when you go ahead and tell a girl shes fat it makes her feel worse, and makes her eat even more for comfort. females naturally are very self conscious anyway. and if shes healthy... leave her alone. but if your ver concerned... let her know that you care about her health, but be nice about it.

Answer 8

How to stop your friend from dieing young.

1/.  IN PRIVATE get her and a scale - get her to weigh herself

2/. IN PRIVATE show her all of the stats and medical infomation on how much damage she is doing to her body.

3/. IN PRIVATE get her to promise to at least make one change to her dietary intake - for 30 days.  Then another for the next 30 days

When she harps tell her to either get the weight off, change her diet or shut up as at 250 lbs she is fat.  Then remind her about unhearlthy food yo7u have seen her eat recently

She does NOT want to be called fat - because he might have to admit she is and to do something about it.

Answer 9

it is very rude to tell a person that they r fat and hurtful... if one can tell it to this person in a nice way and be very helpful and not condescending about it she might not react like that all the time. She might eat to feel good also...  

Answer 10

With friends like you, she will stay overweight. It's a protection mechanism.

I had a guy in a bar tell me that I would look great if I lost 20 pounds. I told him he'd look a lot better if he got a nose job.

So, no she is not the bit*h, her choice of friends are.  

Answer 11

im SOOOOOOOOO sick of people saying medical thing yeah right one in a MILLION people have a actual condition that makes them fat. if shes fat she knows it and I would jsut let her eat whatever she wants but if she says do i look fat tell her the truth!