Why Did I Act The Way I Did?

Question

My boyfriend and I are both 15 years old, and we have been going out for a little bit more than a month. My boyfriend is very sweet, I have been friends with him for ages, and I completley trust him; he does not have bad intentions. He is my first boyfriend, and was my first kiss; since then we have kissed a couple of times (with tongue). Last night we went to the movies, and we had a serious make-out session. The movie went for an hour and forty-five minutes, and I would say we made-out for about an hour and a half of that. While we were making-out, things got pretty heated. We got really close, and things were very passionate. My boyfriend didn't force me to do anything, I want to make that clear. However, I did find that he was very assertive, he made alot of the "moves". I reciprocated, and it was all very mutual. After thinking about last night, I've realised the way I behaved was very unlike me. I am generally quite innocent, and the way I acted has left me a little bit shocked.

Should I be concerned about the way I acted? Do you think its just hormones, and the fact that I'm a teenager? Or do you think I should be a bit more careful next time, just incase things get a little bit out of hand?

I appreciate all your comments, but please, if you have an opinion of me that is negative, keep it to yourself! I only want positive contributions, I don't care what you think of me!

Answer 1

I think it is wrong to assume that you will always behave the way you think you should.

People are human, and it is human nature to make mistakes and get carried away with things.

If it made you feel like you had done something wrong (or something more than you think you should have), chances are you might have.  And I mean that purely in the sense that you may have offended your own moral standpoint, or religious values or just shocked yourself that you could behave like that.  I am not saying that making out is bad, or that what you did was wrong.  

You should talk to your boy about this, and ask him to maybe take things a little slower cause you aren't ready for this.  And there is nothing wrong with that.  It is better to wait these things out than rush them.  

And the other thing is, if this is your first boyfriend, the reason you shocked yourself so much is probably because you have never been in that sort of situation before and therefore have no way of judging or monitoring your behaviour.  

Answer 2

I believe you are right on both counds. Yes, hormones and being an inexperienced teenager curious about s*x/intimacy was part of it....but also you should be VERY careful in the future because a lot of teenage pregnancies started out as a makeout session that ended in intercourse and sperm meeting egg.

Until you have money in the bank for medical bills (for pregnancy or STD treatment) or your own health insurance, do not even consider taking that step from making out to sexual intercourse. Nobody should have to pay the consequences of your behavior but you and your partner. If you decide to take the step to participating in adult behavior, you had best be ready to deal with any consequences like an adult.

So far, so good...just don't let it go any farther and remember you are only 15. In my view, you're not even old enough to be dating yet (16).

Answer 3

I think your hormones got a little out of control, but that happens. Don't forget that you are also getting a little bit older to. What happened is nothing to be ashamed of. You are still the same person, just a little bit older and wiser.

Answer 4

i think it is hormones and just be a little bit more guarded during your make out sessions if you have to set some  boundries  during your make out seesions and he will understand

Answer 5

SWEETY, PLEASE BE CAREFUL THE NEXT TIME YOU GO OUT WITH HIM  YOU ARE STILL TOO YOUNG TO BE DOING SUCH THINGS.  YOU HAVE THE WHOLE WORLD AHEAD OF YOU. CONSENTRATE ON YOUR STUDIES AND USE ALL YOUR ENERGY SO YOU WILL BE VERY SUCCESSFUL IN LIFE.  GOODLUCK

Answer 6

The guy made you hot and you were comfortable with him its a natural thing being that you are so young it can scare you, if you are not will ing to go any further then you should talk to him about it. s*x is a very personal thing between two people you can't get closer than that so think carefully.

Answer 7

there's nothing wrong with the guy taking control - because most of them do, trust me!

Answer 8

Wow you sound really smart and responsible for a 15 yr old girl. I compliment you.

Anywho it's totally normal the way you both behaved, teenage hormones. But don't be pressured into anything you don't want to do or not ready for. He seems like he'll respect that. But if you don't want to do anything you'll regret, IF you know you're not ready, just take it easy. You don't NEED to make out for an hour and a half.

But if you're ready (and only you would know) then by all means keep going at the pace you are.

Good Luck!

Answer 9

No,Just clear it out your head.

Answer 10

Hi Katie,  what has happened here is perfectly natural. Your b/f has taken the lead, and you have found yourself responding to his moves.

Hormones do play a part in it, and it seems very much like he has found all the spots that make you feel 'in the mood' for taking things further.

In future, maybe you should be looking to take a little more control, as it certainly seems during this session he has found out exactly what turns you on, and instead of beating round the bush, so to speak, will head straight for them, and if you are somewhere alone where you won't get disturbed, then you may well find things quickly going past the point of no return, simply because your body is acting on his promptings, before your brain can stop you.

Just in case you do find yourself in the situation where it's gone past the point of no return, ensure you have some condoms with you.

Remember though, at 15, you are both under the legal age limit, and if you did the act, and ended up pregnant, would you both be able to deal with that, both physically and emotionally.

Final thoughts, in general, once a guy gets his fingers inside your v****a, in more than 90% of cases, full sexual intercourse occurs. You are responsible for what, if anything, enters or touches your body. If you say no, and he contiues, it's rape or sexual assault, same as if you say stop, and he doesn't.

Be careful,

mike t.

Answer 11

HONEY I THINK U N YOUR BF R VERY NORMAL,,,BUT PLEASE NEXT TIME MAKE SURE U N YOUR BF HAVE PROTECTION JUST IN CASE URE LOVE LIFE GETS TO OVER HEATED,,,U DONE WANT TO GET PREGO,,,AND U NO IT ONLY TAKES ONE TIME,,,YOUNG LOVE,,,AAHH,,VERY SWEET,,STAY SAFE,,,PEACE