Why Do they do this, i don't understand?

Question

well majority of all my friends are average size/fit-in shape

and they just complain about their weight! & their telling me how fat they are and pointing to where their so called problem area is and when they do this or when they talk about their weight and how "fat" they are it puts me in a really awkward uncomfortable position being that i am actually the one that is overweight & no i'm not just acting like i'm overweight i really am. so if they say that they are huge when they are really thin, what am i the pills berry dough girl? they make me feel terrible but i know they don't mean it, they really feel that they are fat when they are far from it

it's not just them its other people to

why do people do this when they aren't like overweight or close to being it at all???

Answer 1

I do this all the time and I realize that people get annoyed but i keep doing it. The reason that i do it and maybe other people is so that they can feel good about them selves and actually feel like they fit in. Another reason is that they are upset and want to hear what THEY THINK is right just to make themselves better. Well I hope i helped. *Keep in mind that the people that ask you may have body image problems* oh and one more thing, except just telling them that they are skinny, agree with them. Tell them that they are overweight just to show that you dont want to be botherd. When people tell me that I usually shut up.

Answer 2

I would think comparison is to blame, because maybe they are comparing themselves to anorexic models i guess. Or low self esteem. Or the most plausible cause: Wanting attention so people can tell them how skinny they are so they can feel good about themselves.

Answer 3

i know how you feel. my best friend(he is a guy) and this other girl that i sit at lunch with do that all the time. i know they don't realize that it hurts my feelings, seriously it does. i seriously stop eating and throw my food away because of it and i want to be able to be like omg no I'm fat and not actually mean it. people like that need to get over themselves though. But i guess they don't take in to consideration what other people might feel. but don't get influenced by it because its not worth to become wrapped up in an eating disorder(I'm not saying that you are that type of person to let things like this influence you like that) but still!