Why Does Society Always Blame The PARENTS For When A Child Grows Up...?

Question

...to become a screwed up adult who either causes havoc on or doesn't contribute to society? There are many OTHER FACTORS besides parents that can s***w up a child during their upbringing such as: bullying, molestation, corruption by the media, being raised in a bad environment, etc. It always just bugs me that whenever an adult does something really bad & screws up, that the Parents card is always the first one that society plays/brings up whenever tracing back to whatever caused the adult to become the person that they are today during their upbringing. IMO the only reason why the parent card should EVER be played in a situation is if the adult is a mentally sick & twisted individual and psychotic, sociopath, abnormal, mentally sick behavior runs in the gene pool.

Answer 1

because the parents arent there to make your life awesome, they are there to straighten you out. if there yelling at you and embarrassing you. there doing that becuase they care about you. some parents are too soft and kinda throw in the wild card be letting the world teach them a lesson, which in most cases ends up horrible. i was raised old school and had to do alot of stuff that i thought was worthless (and it was) but ya know, im older, leaving for college as a person who can tolerate others and i respect everyone. thats what i got out of my childhood.

Answer 2

In Britain we hate children , trust me been there done that got the t- shirt , the parents are too blame a lot of the time , as society we need to learn to pick out  certain types of behaviour and do something about it  

Answer 3

And society generally praises parents when a child grows up.

Generally speaking, the apple never falls far from the tree.  

Answer 4

Because they are taught to do so. Which gives the adult child an excuse to continue being the way he/she is. "My mom really screwed up my head. I can't help it". It makes me madder than almost anything else a person can say. It is part of the lack of personal accountability brainwashing, though. We are all 'victims', some more than others, lol.

Answer 5

Many good parents have kids that I will call a bad seed.  I've seen parents who will have 3 great kids and one that is the devil.  Also there are these so called teenage girls who have these babies and don't want to be bothered with them and expect others to raise them.  Like grandma or the state or the school system.  Some parents are really screwed up. Then you have parents when their child does something wrong they just enable them to continue their bad behavior.  But sorry once you become an Adult and you do bad things you are responsible for your own actions and you just need to man up or women up to the fact you screwed up.  You did it.  You deal with it...stop blaming society and mom and pops you did it...It's just a cop out to always blame the parent.  

Answer 6

Parents aren't the only influence on their children, but they are the first influence and pretty crucial to how the child turns out.  Unfortunately, there are some really crappy parents out there.  And bad parenting does have a negative effect on the children.  I'm not saying that parents are always to blame.  But if you want to analyze why someone if the way they are, their parents and childhood are good places to start.