Why I added the mother in law....?

Question

He will go live with her. I tryed leaving him 1 time before. His mother and mine live next door to each other wich is how we met. Well i let my son go see his father on the weekends he was 2. my mother and aunt would call me to let me know that my 2 year old was wondering from my in-laws house to her terrably sleepy and only wearing a diper -t-shirt and dirty sox, she said he would not go to sleep . I called my husband to bring my son home before dark and it was getting dark and he explained that he had just gotten to a party with him i was adiment and he brung him, I could not believe that after a whole day of not sleeping he took him to one of those partys he and his mother frequent and call family partys but is really an excuse to get drunk, my son came home tired and hungry i told him my child was famished and tired well the next weekend he took him he tried the same thing and i did not let him take him out, when he came home he brung him with a happy meal ,so did he eat all day?

Answer 1

i'd be more careful about allowing him to visit.  Who's to say if the child was fed....if you have concerns, don't let him go.

Answer 2

Children eat when they are hungry, my six year old still to this day will not eat at a party due to all the excitement . He did the right thing by buying him a happy meal, If you really want the best for your child show him that mom and dad get along and when he is with his father do not try to control the situation. Your time with your son and the decisions  you make when he is with you has nothing to do woth your ex. when your son is with his father then its his rules for the weekend. You have to put aside the fighting over nonsence and be happy that he cares enough to take his child for the weekend. Your parents should not interfere and are making a big deal about nothing. In the summer there is nothing wrong with a t-shirt and diaper on a hot day . try not to create useless problems . You have to find a way to choose your battles and this one is not a problem. If your ex is driving drunk with your son in the car - then make an issue of it and yes he ate during the day No one in their right mind wouldn,t feed their child , thats an excuse to argue with your ex,  - stop that nonsense  - Hope this helps

I just read your last question and I understand where you are coming from now. You need to go to the family court and ask for free legal services, bring your paystubs and document the condition of your children returning home , dont tell him what you are doing just document with the time and date and events that are taking place. Drinking with two small babies is a no -no. speak with the attorneys at family court . No judge will like to hear about drugs and booze. You can also request he take a parenting classes (you will win) and document brusing while under his care and take pictures if there are marks, let the attorneys know the family and ex party all the time with your kids in their custody on the weekends. Go to the family court and take their advice or many attorneys will give advice over the phone for free.  Verbal abuse is worse than physical and those babies are way too young to be around that. Dont tell your ex your plans. Document it all , bring your pics and let the judge know that your kids are always around drunk people and request your children to be picked up and dropped off with a person awarded by the court- a third party that works for the court this way if your ex stumbles in drunk with the kids then it wont be a he said -she said thing. the judge will believe the person he appoints and make him through the court go to parenting classes. It will show him zero tolerance for bullshit. let your children be your strength , forget about him and his bullshit and fight for your childrens safety. You can do it- so go kick ***

Answer 3

maybe not no way to know for sure. Make sure you are protecting you kids though.