Why I am not able to get on with my life after being divorced for 3 years?

Question

I was married for 20 years and was devastated when I discovered that my ex-husband cheated on me for a period of 2 years (visiting prostitutes) and also accumulated a huge gambling debts. I filed for a divorce. He gave up his rights to the children. Took flight and went to stay with his mom leaving me to deal with the banker who eventually throw us out of our home. I look to the church to help us and move in to stay with my sister. A year later I rented a flat near my son's school but unfortunately the landlord defaulted his HDB loan payment and we are in serious trouble as we may be thrown out a second time. I engaged a lawyer in this matter. When the landlord resorted to gangster tactics I have no choice but to contact my ex to negotiate with him because I do not have other close male companion. After this incident my ex try to get close to me. I do not want a relationship with him but is afraid to offend him since he has helped me. I know I have to get to know other guys and move on with my life but I seemed to be attracting those too young for me. What should I do?

Answer 1

well to me I think that since you been with ex husband for so long and shared so many thought and memories together. It is really hard to live with and forgetting it. When you love someone and been with that person for so long I think that it is hard to take them out of your life. No matter what you will always have memories and a part of him with you as you go on with your life. It is never wrong to give a shot back with him, but to me I think that you should not, because if he cheated and got you in so much trouble, maybe he might not be the one for you. But it is up to you. Just follow what you think is right for you. And think about yourself before anyone.

Answer 2

girl tell your ex that you appreciate his help, but you've moved on with your life. and you can date younger guys, it's not a crime. you never know stella, you may get your groove back.

Answer 3

forget ur ex. hes not worth. u're still hot and good looking i think dats why those young guys seems to like u. go for it.enjoy and be happy. we only live once

Answer 4

This is a really hard question and whoever you date you have to make sure that they are safe to be around you and your children.  I don't wish that you had a life of a hermit most of my friends in your situation haven't really dated until later in their lives because of the creeps that came their way.  But it sounds like you have your act together and no I wouldn't date younger guys either but if it is like a five to ten year difference that couldn't hurt anything and tell your husband thank you for your help he should help you move into anther place